That team effort aspect of parental leave can’t be stressed enough. Both parents need that time to learn how to parent, and parent equally. I have a friend who had a baby last year, and she got a pretty good maternity leave from her employer. Her husband got two weeks and took a third week of vacation. The result is…

My husband’s boss, after my husband took a few days this winter to take care of our children while I worked on snowdays, told him he was expected to be in the office because Other Coworkers had kids and THEY still come to work every day, and his wife could take care of the kids. I’m the breadwinner. I saw red I was so…

Last night on FB I saw the most annoying post. My friend’s husband does the BARE MINIMUM in terms of parenting. My husband provides more childcare than I do right now. Her husband maybe helps her one night a week. Otherwise she is required to sleep with their kid in the kid’s bedroom because they attachment parent,…

I think it comes out in the wash. Workers who are happy and have a good work-life balance tend to be more productive and use their time better. Also if you think about it, there is SUCH an emphasis on productivity nowadays and being ‘on’ 24/7 — with constant emails to your smart phone, texts, working remotely, etc.…

Especially a female family member because it’s always a woman’s job to care for children

And not to mention (and I am in NO WAY undervaluing or emphasizing this over childcare) elder care and even friend care. A lot of Gen Xers and older Millennials are hitting that sandwich situations where they have kids and parents to take care of. Also, we’re not just a nation of nuclear families (not that we ever…

Yeah except most parents of new parents are likely still working (mine sure are), and I know for me at least I don’t have any friends that could watch my theoretical kids during the day because they, too, would be at work. My grandparents are all dead except for one, and he’s in no shape to do anything. A good portion…

And QUIT ASKING FOR SOMEBODY TO COME IN ON THEIR DAY OFF PERIOD. Your husband’s boss has shitty hiring and payroll if he needs somebody to not take his MANDATED DAY OFF. Gahhh, this makes me so angry!

What pisses me off the most (not only, but the MOST) about that whole “wimminz be raisin’ the babies!” thing is that there is not one culture, anywhere, at any time in history, where the majority of women were not working. And I don’t mean the endless unpaid labor of home and child care, I mean paid work—in factories…

The stupidest thing is at least for people who work on a computer that can be done anywhere is that there is absolutely no effing reason for people to be present at their workplace as many hours as they are. I don’t know what your husband does but I bet there’s no reason for him to be in the office most of the time.…

Yes. Laws and regulations don’t mean squat when the reality of work culture dictates that new parents HAVE to break said laws in order to live.

Really what we need is parental leave overhaul. Because the thing is, if we make parental leave - regardless of gender - a thing, and develop significant cultural support for it, then it will help women significantly. Not just in terms of reforming maternity leave and creating mandatory paid maternity leave for all…

I can’t walk halfway down the block without running into 3 guys who will complain to no end about their alimony or child support bills, but they can’t see past their noses to realize that if we had child care, if women didn’t make 70 cents on the dollar, if the entire structure of society didn’t minimize women’s…

My husband is constantly asked to come in on his day off, when our son has a standing appointment that my husband takes him to. His boss is like, “can’t your wife do it”. No, I cannot, because I am at work and it is husband’s fucking day off.

Ha. I remember some news reports several years back about how the French get at least five weeks of mandated vacation time, with no more than 35 hour work week — and by and large, the American response seemed to be, “Pff, they’re so lazy.” I’m just like, WHY DON’T WE THINK THIS IS A GOOD THING?! Working yourself to…

Repeat after me, guys: Feminism is good for men. Women’s issues are men’s issues. That is all.

Good to know? I’m lucky enough to have grandparents picking up the slack in teams until 3 months when she’ll start. But there’s a whole lot of women in this country that don’t have that. Which is why non-certified daycares exist.

Capitalism wants more workers, doesn’t want to cover the labor and expense of creating them and so offloads it onto current workers while still demanding the total output of their labor for current industry.

I feel bad for the Dad but... my need to leave at 5pm to get home and feed my under 1 child is questioned, and counts against me at my job.

It’s like society wants you to have children and then it punishes you for having children and at the same time hates you if you don’t want to have children.