Nobody else interprets it as “f*** me one more time”? I think it was left intentionally ambiguous, but people were already talking about “hitting that.” A cheeky allusion to sex that pretends to be something else was totally on brand for her at the time...

I agree. I was concerned up until that point. That line nailed the coffin shut on this relationship. If he doesn’t trust her, he doesn’t trust her, whether she’s trustworthy or not. 

It’s a largely irrational fear in general, doubly so coming from someone who was very gung-ho about kids in the first place. It’s a profoundly insulting thing to believe about a partner, as well.

If a guy is worried his partner will secretly trap him in a pregnancy because they’re baby crazy and don’t respect his wishes then A) he’s probably nuts, and B) they shouldn’t be together. That is a relationship-ruining level of distrust and paranoia. 

That was fucking crap. When she’s happy they can’t rock the boat, when she’s unhappy they can’t bring kids into this “horrible” situation? Funny how he’s magically never responsible for the relationship!

I agree, that jumped out at me as a shitty thing, especially since he is basically saying “We don’t need to get married, just trust me, but you might trick me into impregnating you”

No, it’s not reasonable at all. If you suspect your partner of committing crimes against you, you should break up with them instead of practicing creepy and controlling behavior.

Yeah, despite the length of the relationship, when one person has completely opposite goals and interests, that’s almost impossible to look past.

I have a lot of friends who’ve had relationships go down this way. One of my friends says people can be categorized as sharks or polar bears. Sharks have to keep moving—evolving, trying new things, growing. Polar bears get to a certain point and hibernate. Unfortunately, I’ve known a lot of guys who are polar bears.

Seriously. Marriages end. People grow apart. Sometimes they go on far longer than they should. 15 years means dick if they were unhappy for 10 of them. This is a dumb fuckin take.

You do know you can be into someone and stop being into them correct?

Something a coworker going through a divorce once said to me seems appropriate to #1's situation, and agrees with the Doc’s point.
My coworker basically said that she spent the last 5 years of her life working on herself. She started working out, she reconciled with her Mother (and was back in her life), and went back…

Wow, I had no idea you could be a married incel

His wife is a sultry femme fatale, capable of taking someone out with Steve Austin’s Stone Cold Stunner. And not just because she’s stunning.

There’s a million reasons a person can come up with to not have kids yet, and unless you’re making well into 6 figures, claiming financial issues is one of the easiest ones.

There likely never will be a perfect time. There’s never a point where there won’t be drawbacks, liek the column says, it means putting the kids…

He’s formerly married to a fox with zero body warmth, not sure what part is confusing you.

“a literal stone cold fox”

What I discovered was that there’s no such thing as a “right time.” You either want to do it or you don’t.

it’s fun to be the cool relative that hangs out with them, buys them gifts, and doesn’t have to deal with some of the discipline or attitude.

I had kids before I was financially ready for it, and it definitely set back our life-progress. I also wouldn’t have traded it for the world. Millions of people make it work. I am also a master-class in putting something off until I’ve convinced myself it’s the right time, and my wife is well versed in calling me on…