I always had a difficult time remembering to call my one friend by her stage name while she was dancing (go-go dancing, no nudity). I finally just gave up and started calling her "Sparkelly" all the time so I didn't have to remember Sparkles or Kelly depending on where we were.

I second that notion.

Because pirates have always been known to don heavy suits of plate mail to protect them while sailing the high seas!

These people have held these norms and beliefs for over a thousand years. I don't think they are going to change their minds. Good luck and God bless, but personally I think I would just find a way to be happy that didn't rely on the grace of others. Because that grace seems to rarely be there.

Personally, I have no stake in any of this. But yes. Since joining a group like a sorority is in no way, shape, or form a matter of life or death, I still ask why would anyone want to be a part of a club that doesn't want them? Go find like-minded people and enjoy their company instead.

Well. The song isn't called "I Played Tonsil Hockey With A Girl" now, is it?

You can talk about rules all you want, but it doesn't strip away the very heart of this matter...why would anyone want to belong to an organization that didn't want them? The sorority didn't want lesbians. These girls were lesbians. Time for them to move on.

Right. OK. I'm fine with that. But "don't be gay" is a rule the national sorority had, so if you were gay, why would you want to be a part of that?

I did read the article. I understand that the girls didn't know they were lesbians until after they were in the sorority. Just like I understand that the national sorority doesn't want lesbians as members. The girls had a choice. Maintain the relationship and stay in the sorority, or leave and find a different…

No. I compared wanting to belong to a group that doesn't want you to wanting to be with an individual that doesn't want you. It's the same thing. Neither one wants you. Accept it and move on.

I've already agreed with you. Condemn the Hell out of the sorority. I don't care. Blast them all you want.

Yeah? I don't get your point. The local decided to stay in the organization. They threw their support behind the other girls when it was relevant, but decided not to leave the national after the other girls left and the dust was settled. They had no obligation to leave the national organization. So if you're ok with a…

It's a sorority. It isn't essential. No one ever needs to belong to a sorority. Their lives are not now over because they had to leave a sorority. The weren't denied life-saving treatment at a hospital because they were lesbians. Someone who robbed them wasn't allowed to go free because they were lesbians. They…

Well, I tend to try not to fuck over people who have supported me. The other girls in their local supported them. After the girls left, I think it was pretty crappy of them to come back and protest locally. Sure, blast the national organization all you want, but to show up and protest the very people who had just…

If a sorority is an essential service, then I suppose I'm fucked since I'm a male and I don't think any sorority would let me join.

Why should they what?

My advice to you is the same. Find a group of like-minded people to be with. If there isn't one, start one.

Oh, I don't disagree with you at all there. These girls are free to blast this organization all they want.

No. A sorority is not an essential service. No person on Earth ever needs to belong to a sorority. Therefore, sororities are free to make up any dumb rule they want.

Then these girls have just faced the first of many decisions that they will have to make in life where they have to decide what path means more to them, and take it. We out of touch adults know that you can rarely have your cake and eat it to. Either they stay in their relationship, or they break up and stay in the…