Lolz for the troll whose main activity/interest is Jesus.

Class of 1988 here. Yep. That recession led to me working in restaurants and retail for 10 years instead of getting the kind of sit-down job a person with my college education might expect, but it turned out OK for me and all the peers I can think of.

Interesting... though, as pertains to the subject at hand, if you misread someone's attraction as friendliness only blueballs will ensue, if you misread someone's friendliness as attraction and you force yourself on them anyway, that's a violation of them as a person.

That's an interesting observation. I hate to be all "men are from Mars" blah-de-blah, because I truly do think that we're not all victims of our gender. But it is a struggle sometimes to get past the differences in acculturation and communication.

Yeah...if she had said Ike Turner (first rock & roll song ever: Rocket 88 1951) or Robert Johnson (godhead of The Rolling Stones), that sentence would be golden. But as it is... the logic is true enough, but the facts supporting it are way off the mark.

Yes, I think it's a mistake to characterize power simply as physical power or the threat of violence. In some cases, it's more of a sense of entitlement and lack of basic human compassion.

Between this article and the one on how lots of men incorrectly assume that their women friends have crushes on them, it's been really eye-opening to me how poorly some (most?) men perceive the feelings of others.

I've never thought much about Skype sex, though as my husband and I occasionally take long business trips, it's turning into a possibility.

For whatever anec-data is worth, I think a lot of a person's perception of strangers comes down to sizing them up as competitors or potential partners. That's why I think college-aged men and women might be seeing others through a more sexualized filter — because they're highly likely to be competing for…

*shrugs* It's possible that the results would be similar, but I think it would be interesting to examine age, ethnicity, and socio-economics as factors.

I absolutely agree with the argument here — that, basically, seeing people being female in public involves reducing them to parts and is a dehumanizing exercise.

Thanks for your insightful comments and advice!!! LOLZ1!11!

Funny — I object to it because my husband and I are close in age. And, if I were single, I'd probably date men +/- 5 years of my age, not a guy in his 70s like I would be "supposed" to. Yikes.

Yeah, I think it becomes part of the publicly-written continuous Story Of R-Patz. The legacy of any celebrity is basically a browse through their press mentions, so this is going to be a part of his.

If it's the standards of the entertainment industry, though, her age and marital status don't matter either. Seems like plenty of grown-ass married folk step out on their partners too and no one in the industry really cares.

Correct? Hm. If you mean "it tells you the general limits of social acceptability", then maybe.

That's bad news for my (likely to be 6' or more when she's grown up) daughter, then!

I'm 5'8", I attracted dudes of varying heights when I was on the market, but my hubs is 6'5" and lurves it when I wear heels, the higher the better.

Soz if I cross posted with your comment, I checked all the threads that were active when I started to write.

How about give any boy spawn the hyphenates of the two maternal names and any girl spawn the hyphenates of the two paternal names?