If Rachel has always felt like a white woman trapped in a black woman’s body, is it for us to say that she’s “lying”?

I honestly don’t think a dude’s ever checked me out.

You're right. But when you're a 20-something male with low-self esteem and a low opinion of your looks, with a tendency to be socially awkward, it's hard to remember this. With age (and some dating success, both of the "getting laid" and "good relationship" variety) this gets better, but why it can't happen at 25…

Any woman that tells you they are their to dance is lying, lying, lying. Women go to clubs to be watched dancing by men. Full stop.

Hmm. Anecdote alert.

Oh man, I just love Jezebel commenters. Guys who try to date women who are thin and pretty are shallow assholes who perpetuate patriarchy, but women who try to date men who are tall? That's just perfectly normal.

OK, the most attractive thing on everyone is CONFIDENCE. Also if you aren't very physically attractive flirt with women in your range. Everyone on earth seems to think they deserve the most attractive members of our society, most of us are average. Once you free yourself from what hollywood tells you women should look…