may *come* frome a complete lack of sense of self

Wouldn't that go toward the deep insecurity analysis of narcissism? It certainly seems to fit the maybe narcissists that I've come into contact with. Their so worried about their potential non-existence that they go overboard. It's giant ego, but kind of a contradiction, because it may sense from a complete lack of…

Yeah, but how can anyone ever tell when a photography session is going to turn into sexual assault? Like the chick said, fashion and a lot of art photography is about revealing the body, and if that's something you're comfortable with maybe it's something you're ready to do. But sexual assault or pressure isn't —…

And how horribly fucked up is that this assistant of his is helping facilitate all this. Oh, isn't it so funny? So hilarious? What an idiot. And what an enormous pussy to have to rely on an underling woman to do your shitty bidding for you.

We had an interesting discussion, maybe last week (?) on the thread about "craziest sex experiences," where a couple of people said that having sex with someone bipolar was their craziest experience (I know bipolar and borderline aren't exactly the same thing, i don't think), and then basically qualifying it as "then…

A guy I once asked out called me "damaged," without even knowing anything about my dating history. I'm not even remotely damaged. I decided not to go out with him. Douche bag.

I would go even further, and not necessarily blame mental illness but absent parenting. Parents who would rather let their kids surf the web all day then spend time with them and share more positive activities with them. Not universally, but I'm sure it probably contributes.

If there are individuals who are doing that on these forums, that may be something that is prosecutable in these cases. In the same way that some internet bullies are being held responsible for their contributions to deaths or other crimes, it should be something that the investigators look at.

I don't think it's a matter of the girl being "coerced" or manipulated into her beliefs at all — no one said that. It's a matter of her parents having certain interests to the point that influenced their daughter to have similar interests, and blinded them to the depth of the negative impulses and fantasies that are…

You're getting a lot of blow back here, and for what it's worth, I'm totally with you. People who don't pay attention to psychology and human development will be defensive and not want to believe how they might be influencing their children. I don't see you as essentializing — you're trying to be fair, but you're…

I posted upthread about exactly the same thing. If we are going to hold Elliott Rodgers' media consumption habits (MRA message boards) as responsible for influencing him towards violence, I don't see how you can't make the same connections between these girls and their actions. I know the Daily Mail is sketchy, but…

The problem that I have with this sort of imagery is that when young kids see it in the context of "entertainment" or "music," they may understand that it's not real, but it also normalizes violence for them while still keeping them at a vast remove from the realities of what the experience of real violence actually…

I'm a straight woman and I live in a heavily LGBTQ friendly neighborhood of the city that I live in. A few weekends ago, I was strolling down the street on a lovely sunny afternoon, as were many other people, enjoying the sunshine, enjoying the day. While walking, a big SUV passed by on the street, and the driver…

As a photographer myself, I really don't understand how those people live with themselves as their chosen contribution to the field. I'm guessing it pays a lot of money, but seriously — what an awful existence.

I wasn't assuming you actively sought her out because of her bipolar disorder — you hadn't specified that in your original post. I was simply noting that there tends to be a stereotype about "crazy girl sex," and I didn't understand what that stereotype entailed.

Can I ask a question? How is sex so much more wild and crazy with bipolar people than it is with more mentally stable people? I feel like I hear this stereotype all the time and it bothers me for a number of reasons:

women can tear their hymen in all kinds of ways - it can happen when using tampons, it can even happen through strenuous physical activity (sports). This guy obviously doesn't know much about the female body.

This pisses me off, and makes me think she might be kind of a bitch. She was so weird with MM, and I was actually so happy to see her get back together with JB. I thought she was settling down to being a halfway normal woman. I guess not. Her business, I guess, but it leaves a kind of bad taste in my mouth. Jamie…

You're not alone. I feel incredible sadness for what sort of situations the people have faced, and the mental anguish they have that cause them to do these things. It may not be apparent from the outside circumstances, but obviously there is some tortuous shit going on internally to drive someone to these things.

The problem with your understanding of things, dude, is that you assume women are actively, consciously trying to exert this mythical "power" over you. Women do not walk around every day laughing with glee about the power they hold over men. I don't think any women seek to hold "power" over men. We seek simply,…