His dad seems like he may have been a jerk, hollywood connections notwithstanding. He didn't really seem to be in the kid's life, remarried a woman who didn't seem to like the kid, and it doesn't sound like anyone in his family actually honored very well the cultural elements of their heritage. If the father…

Well god bless you and the work you do. If only all people in relationships sought out counseling, I think so many things would be different. It must be really satisfying when you get results like that.

Oh my god that is insane. Do you think they're doing ok? For real, or do you think the kids are a bandaid that's going to fall off?

I've had some pretty weird dates, and because of that I would totally believe most stories. One weird date was totally my fault (well — it involved me getting sick in the middle of a date, which wasn't entirely controllable, but which I can't blame the guy for not wanting to go out again). So — tell tell tell!

Ew, I had kind of a similar experience! Some guy started messaging me on OkCupid, and before long, before we had even met, wanted to become FB friends. I obliged, only because the guy lived in a different city and I wasn't planning on going out of my way to meet him, so I figured he could just be one of those randos…

I'm fascinated to hear about how these things work successfully. I'm single, and more oriented towards monogamy, I think because when I get to the point of liking someone enough to be in a relationship with them, I am so INTO them. Starting a relationship with someone, I can't imagine wanting to spend time with…

Ugh, that's awful. Yeah, I can't see how you can stay with a guy who's off having random sex all the time while you're the one taking care of the kids. Any guy who would rather be doing that then concentrating on his family is a loser.

Oh my god I love this post. I want to hear ALL your stories! You should ask if you can write an article about it!

I think that's the point though — he suggested this macho situation cause he thought he was hot shit, without the balls to deal with the reality, and THATS why he's posting about it. Seems real enough to me.

I don't think you really know what happened either. You don't know what Jay Z did to set her off that could have been entirely unacceptable. I think everybody needs to take a step back and stop judging shit that has nothing to do with them.

I wanted to add to this, because I can't edit anymore —

I'm not celebrating someone being physically violent for no reason. I celebrate people who don't back down from someone who is provoking them or stirring trouble, and speaking out and/or making clear that such behavior is not ok. Should bullied people just cower in a corner when people are attacking them verbally? …

Exactly — I would never ask my gay friends to hang out in an environment where they would be uncomfortable (some uber straight event, or some place where there are a bunch douchey bros around — not that I myself hang out a lot in those places either).

I completely agree with you about the plight of LGBTQ people constantly having to, in general society, endure situations among straight people where they similarly feel really uncomfortable. I think in my experience with my friends though, when you accuse someone of being a homophobe because of their personal…

That's actually such a great observation. I don't think that's ever occurred to me. And it kind of explains a lot of discomfort between straights and gays that doesn't necessarily signify homophobia. Bravo to you for pointing that out.

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I just said this down thread, but I feel like it needs repeating — Can't we all find some appreciation in the fact that Solange isn't the least bit afraid of the rich and powerful Jay-Z? She didn't hurt him. He did something to piss her off, and she wasn't afraid of him to fight back. I'm always impressed by people…

I think we all need to find some appreciation in the fact that the girl isn't afraid of his "powerful" ass. Who cares if you're a rich powerful rapper — I'll throw down on you in an elevator if you provoke me, I don't care who sees it!

I'm surprised all the people who think she's a raging violent alcoholic abuser aren't looking for marks on that guy.

I don't know about that. Don't forget, she had a kid (supposedly) which also makes your breasts grow. I don't know what time that picture comes from, but it could have been around the time before she had the kid or after she was breast feeding. If you look at the photos from the gala night, she's almost flat as a…