Is that Daisy?! I hope it's not a gif cause it's not moving and I really can't stand the thought of not seeing a Daisy gif.

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VC funding of startups is purely a whitey fratbro society.

Exactly...and honestly, I'd never heard of this among Italian-Americans UNTIL I movd to the Northeast, so I think what we're talking about here is a tradition that is practiced among a subset of Italian-Americans based in the Northeast, but not all Italian-Americans in the Northeast. So, a cultural subset of a…

It isn't actually all Italian-Americans, either. I am an Italian-American (well, in part) in the Northeast and I've never seen or participated in pinning dollars to someone or this cash purse thing. Though giving cash or checks is perfectly acceptable.

I will agree that in some cultures, money is expected. I never saw a dollar dance until my heavily Polish girlfriend got married. And another friend, with strong Italian heritage, got a lot of cash.

Down South, sometimes couples do a "Dollar Dance," where people put $1 into, traditionally, a boot to dance with the bride or groom. It's supposed to be spending money for the honeymoon. Usually, it's pretty fun, and my brother and sister-in-law did it at their wedding. We thought about doing it but decided not to.…

Yes, I can think of nothing more fun than a public ritual where lots of adults pin cash all over the body of a young woman. No problematic implications there whatsoever.

What you're describing is an Italian American tradition, not a Northeastern one. My step-sister talked about having one of those purses made and my parents plotzed, it was considered so outrageously rude in our different, Northeastern ethnic culture. (As in, my mom called and begged her not to do, she was nearly in…

See, this is where we disagree- to my eyes (and virtually everyone else posting here) you have a lot of anger at others not following your cultural norms which are not in fact those of most people. Yes, it is traditional to give a gift for the couple to help set up their home. For most people, it is not traditional to…

So what you're saying is that you are a member a specific group which has specific practices which are not those of the larger culture and you expect everyone to follow your practices at all weddings?

Oh, is that the one where I invite you to my birthday dinner at Swanky Restaurant du Jour and then order the biggest, fattest entree and drinks I can, all while sweetly pretending to not realize that my oh-so-awesome friends are just about to offer to pay for my meal? "Oh, you guys! Who knew?"

This is like the extreme logical extension of the dreaded birthday dinner where the "guests" are supposed to finance the "host's" extravagance.

I think it's been brought up on here before that these stories might stem from regional/ethnic/religious cultural differences, but I do know that here in the midwest a house-warming style gift (crockpot, silver picture frame, etc.) is expected, but not required. Sometimes close, wealthier, older relatives will give a…

ok, the "cancer can't stop this wedding" one seems at least somewhat more legit.

BTW: there is a way to stop this madness, and it's derived from the idea of civil disobedience. That is, if you don't like the "laws" imposed by Bridezilla, well, just don't go, or go on your own terms. You feel opressed/humiliated/offended by the invented rule of SheWhoMustBeObeyed Barbie??? Well, just don't go to…

I have seen several stories like this on Jezebel and I swear I do not know where these people come from. I have been to/been IN/known people who had many many weddings. I have never heard a single person...not even from the most shallow people I know, people from work, no one has ever been so crass as to even imply…

It is a cultural tradition to pass around a bag during some peoples' reception and everyone put in some cash. But, they are not obligated to do so. It is not the tradition of the wedding that the guests cover their portion. That's weird and icky.

Oh, shit...they are!

I have so much respect for the way Gretchen handled this. Breaking up with a friend (even a friend who is treating you like dog poop on the bottom of your brand new Chloe boots) is a hard thing to do. Good for her.