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Well, generally both people don't go to the police saying the other one raped them. Generally when men are accused of rape, they do not say, no, she raped me, when being interviewed by the police. Or "I don't remember what happened." Usually they say, like this guy did, yeah, we "had sex." Oh, and she had sex with

He really isn't being polite. It isn't "polite" to suggest that a woman raped a man because she accused him of rape. The alleged assailant isn't calling her a rapist, so doing so is far from polite.

This is the problem with some of these policies. In the real world, there is immunity. Many of the services now have immunity for victims.

Sexual assault. Indecent exposure. Conduct unbecoming. Depending on rank, a few other things as well.

I don't think he is saying she raped him or the other guy, though, so this is a pretty weird hypothetical.

How do you feel about the protest marches in Birmingham?

Fair enough. Thanks for your thoughts—I really appreciate them.

Good points all, particularly regarding how other service workers are treated.

People who are obsessed with how their children should ideally behave, instead of letting go and accepting that in adulthood, they are their own people, are troubling narcissists.

People aren't bad if they don't speak English well. Uneducated, sure, but that is hardly her fault.

Go read a sociology textbook, or a psychology textbook, or a philosophical textbook about agency. Or even just a wikipedia article. Or read the other comments on this thread, which I already say that I agree with (some of which I have written, even to you) that agency exists on a sliding scale, is not a binary, and

I was talking about the CSU's, not the UC's and you know it. I mean, Fullerton, really? The CSU's as a whole are not flagships of any sort, to say the least. Most of them are crappy. Arizona State is also not a "flagship" school (although it ain't bad), and AZ, like CA (and FL) are expensive places to live.

I think the concern, respectfully, is that it allows the buyers to treat sex as something they buy, rather than a cooperative endeavor. I do not have a problem with the workers engaging in the work, if it is freely chosen and they are safe, but I think that men buying sex/sexual performances from women often happens

Yes, allowances are problematic. Sitting down together and working out a budget, including spending for household expenses and fun money is not.

You are just wrong about agency in an academic context.

HAHAHAHAHA. Sorry, which flagship public university costs $10k a year? My younger sister went to a very non-flagship public university, and it cost well over twice that for tuition alone.

I never said any of the things you are saying about these women. I am simply critiquing what Ari wrote, because once again, he is not engaging with what the OP wrote or what the women themselves had to say about their experiences.

That is where we differ. If people are put into situations that are not good for their physical or mental wellbeing, regardless of whether those positions involve prostitution or other difficult labor, there is an agency problem. If the choice is starve or degrade yourself/wear yourself out, calling that "agency"

It does mention what they make, and none of them even advertise themselves for that much. Advertisements don't mean that is what people actually earn, and also, you are completely ignoring the experiences of the women in the article, which is what the OP is WRITING ABOUT.

Women get paid less and hired less across the board, both before, during, and after college. Do keep up.