I wasn’t saying lack of emotional support is abuse. I was saying if you’re not getting that basic, fundamental need filled in a relationship, there’s no point to that. So, I meant if you add disrespect to that (I think disrespect is emotional abuse) what’s the point?

It seems like you recognise that there are some issues in your relationship, as you mentioned in your replies that there’s no emotional support, your friends and his recognise there are problems, and you think you shouldn’t be together. Don’t get hung up on over the label of “abuse,” it’s probably not helpful right…

Without an examples it’s hard to say. It sounds like you and his best friend knows he needs help. Maybe talking to a couples counselor ever if you’re just by yourself would help put things into perspective. If you put a frog into pot of cold water and slow turn up the heat they will boil to death without hardly…

So having manners is superficial and every day folks use plastic cups when guests are over for dinner? Got it.

“Big Plate”, omg. When my grandmother died, her china was split between my sister and a cousin. They’ve never used it.

Like the stuff in the china cabinet behind them in the photo?

Typical liberal? Now it’s you who is generalizing.

My husband has a thing about old plates and silverware, but if it were up to me, I would be using the hand-me-down plates that my grandma gave me (which were well used) went I headed off to my first apartment in college, along with the crap you absorb from old roommates. I have a small kitchen - I have 3 pots, plus a…

And if I am being abused, why am I not aware of it?

If you think you’re being disrespected, that is emotional abuse. As a Jezzie said on here last summer, the entire point of relationships in this modern society is emotional support. Disrespect isn’t emotional support.

My father thinks my husband is emotionally abusive towards me, but I’m not convinced and not being convinced has led to me worrying that I’m being an enabler and making excuses. So now I’m like “Am I actually being abused or am I just being disrespected?” And if I am being abused, why am I not aware of it? I seem…

OMG, yes...I watched that third episode on Thursday and it’s still with me. I don’t think I’ve ever had such visceral responses to a TV show as I did to that episode. Those last moments in the van were shattering. I’ve read the book multiple times, but I still wasn’t prepared for how much harder it was to see events…

To be fair, they probably had the good china out until they found the guest was just fucking Zuckerberg: “Eh, he’ll show up in a t-shirt. I’m not making an effort for that low-class poser. When he shows up dressed for dinner like a proper young man who wasn’t raised in a barn, he can have a proper place setting.”

They literally have it in the cabinet behind them. Stop being faux offended.

My grandmother, who died last year at age 90, had a cabinet full of gorgeous china. I admired it once and asked if she ever used it, and she made a face and said, “You can’t put it in the dishwasher.”

To be fair, this is a weird old person thing, not a L/R, Rep/Dem thing. My grandparents did the same thing, plenty of my friends’ parents/grandparents did it, etc.

Hey, when you show up like an unannounced dickhead, you get what you get.

“ Them’s for lookin, not eatin”

I love how even Mark Zuckerberg was not important enough for them to open the China cabinet and use the good setting. Plastic plates, cups and cutlery for guests... why am I not surprised these folks voted for Trump?

I am 100% certain that the best way to get rid of Milo is to fill his speaking engagements with people listening to literally anything else on noise-canceling headphones. His fit would be epic.