"Muted perfection" - is that the new shorthand for "a reality I can totally ignore in favor of my weird 1950s fantasies"? Because that's what it sounds like here. It was almost a benefit that the Nice Guy knew your friend so poorly that he could project any number of his own fantasies onto her. Sounds like he built…

Oh yay, another Queen Bee insisting that women shouldn't act feminist because it scares men off. Be nice. Keep quiet. Smile at his jokes. Humor him. Even if you aren't thrilled with him, he's still a husband on the hoof. Marry him fast before he realizes what happened. Don't think about how early marriages have a much…

It's astonishing to me that someone with the screen name "agape" could write something as sickeningly hateful, ignorant, and evil as you have here. I'm not even going to address your amazingly poor horrible grammar and spelling, just the ideas, because they're bad enough! Your idea of "life" is "forcing a woman to…

I'm trying to think of someone so hateful and cruel that he would have accepted life, as a fetus, on terms so drastically evil. I loved my now-dead mother. I know that having me at such a young age totally messed up her life and her future. I'd have happily given up my existence if it'd meant she wouldn't suffer so…

I don't even know what to say about that awful experience with the lying douchebag. I'm glad you're out of it, even if it wasn't through your own action. I think your advice to your son is pretty good. Labels can be a little scary for people. Except for the lying douchebag. He gets his label free of charge and with no…

I'll take a look at it, then, but the little cretin still lied and plagiarized that "real man" letter and posted it on his own twitter page like it was some kind of wonderful glorious thing he'd written himself. And I've heard a lot about him treating people like shit. Just not impressed overall. But if he managed to…

I just wanted to say first, LW1, THANK YOU for not inflicting pain on your child to make the hellspawn's mother feel good. Your child depends on you to protect him/her and if you abdicate that responsibility, your friend sure won't protect others from her child.

Yeah, because straight people never, ever, EVER marry for reasons that don't involve passionate love and lifetime commitment or which might involve wanting to take advantage of the many hundreds of supports and rewards given to married couples. I can name half a dozen couples who are married right now because they…

I would in a heartbeat if I could afford to live there and could stand the traffic. But there's a lot of Washington that is pretty progressive and not crazy expensive or clogged with cars—or infested with hipsters!

Well... his therapist said that, apparently. So maybe we ought to examine why the therapist advised this rather than looking for someone his own age. This sexist world being what it is, I don't imagine that 20something women are going to gravitate to an ultra-slow-moving, ultra-task-oriented deliberate 30something…

If that picture doesn't persuade Patricia Krentcil to get help, I'm not sure what would. I've seen her husband interviewed; he really puts up with a lot and apologizes for her behavior constantly. That can't be easy. Hope he comes through all right.

I'm paler than mayonnaise and haven't been tanned in the last five years. I don't really care. I take care of myself otherwise, but I draw the line at doing something to my skin that is demonstrably harmful. I don't wear makeup, either. If someone holds it against me that I'm pale or cosmetic-free, I wouldn't have…

He's a lying, preening, pretentious little tube of goo with face-pubes and a roaring entitlement complex. He wants to be a REAL ACTOR with all his heart, but he just can't figure out how to act. He wants to be a REAL MAN with all his might, but he just has no idea what it involves to cultivate those attributes. I…

Answering seriously: depends on the woman and why she's getting her abortion. Finances account for quite a few of them; sometimes the situation is more emotional; sometimes there's a physical or mental risk. Depends on how religiously-indoctrinated the woman is and what kind of "programming" she's absorbed. Sometimes…

That part about giving people rides home is simply BRILLIANT. I used to be car-less and can tell you that a big part of grocery shopping involved transportation logistics.

Wow. Nice of these guys to give you such a good heads-up about their shortcomings.

Calling someone a "breeder" is kind of 90s-Turtle-board rude. It doesn't bug me if someone uses as an informal shorthand for the process of pregnancy and childbirth the term "breeding," though. I don't regard having a kid as some kind of miraculous phenomenon. Even so, a person who engages in (or has engaged in) an…

I'm another person who calls that side "forced-birth." They don't care about anything but forcing women to bear fetuses to term, so that's what they get called.

This article, and your comment, were so eye-opening for me. Seems like women of all races can't win for losing, can we? Doesn't matter what you shave or don't shave, style or don't style, keep or lose, someone's there ready to blow things up into some kind of statement about our femininity. Hopefully we'll move past…

Since I've still got no clue what the hell you're talking about, that won't be hard. Have fun with that weird persecution complex you've got going on.