You're right, I am just another random person on the internet who doesn't know the context. That's why I didn't make any assumption. Maybe he's an ass. Maybe he's serious. Maybe he's been in incredibly abusive relationships. Maybe he's incredibly abusive. Maybe he deserves to be pepper sprayed, maybe not. Screw women?…

I'll keep that in mind. When someone — anyone — says they've been slapped, they were asking for it. Got it. Especially if they sound like an ass. Then they were really asking for it.

I don't get what this has to do with David Beckham.

Reading: it's also fun.

Yes. Pepper sprayed out of jealousy. I have lived/worked in areas where it's a lot more common than you might think. I have seen regular abusive behavior of all shapes and sizes due to the nature of my work. This notion that decent-ish men can't be battered and abused is nonsense. Does it happen to women more often?…

Believe me, I get what you're saying. But I'm just saying that the number of times I've heard hyperbolic statements about a gender, born out of frustration, are probably the same amount of times you've heard them. Do I wish people in frustrated states, both men and women, would be precise about their words? I'm not so…

Yeah. Because people never get pepper sprayed out of jealousy and not self-defense. I'm not supporting or condemning this person for being the recipient of boyfriend beatdowns, sprays and smacks. Why? Because I have no idea why these things happened. And ... wait for it ... neither do you.

Right. Because frustrated people mean everything they say. Everything is literal. I'm sure you've never heard a generalized "I'm frustrated with men" rant. Or an I'm frustrated with women rant.

Fair enough. But if the commenter was a woman, that certainly wouldn't be a perfectly reasonable and expected response on Jezebel. It would be called victim bashing because of the POSSIBILITY that someone might not have been deserving of abuse.

Really? It bothers you that much that someone might be frustrated? And to be fair, I don't feel a damn thing for the dude. You have no idea why he got pepper sprayed, or if in fact he did. You have no idea why he got slapped, if in fact he did. Maybe he's a piece of shit. Maybe he's a very nice guy. I have no idea,…

A supportive bunch. Sorry, this isn't a place for you to get any benefit of the doubt. Nothing like, "It's tough out there. Hang in there." No hesitation to make assumptions that everything (the abuse) is your fault without any evidence. That's called victim bashing, and if you try it around here, you get dismantled,…

My favorite comments are the matter of fact ones.

Yeah. I see what you mean about the lack of editorial commentary. They could have done a more responsible job framing the friend's email.

I assume you're talking about the standard victim-blaming/not-condoning-but-trying-to-figure-out-why conversation?

Since we're doubling down on stereotypes, I've already made the cast members racist. And now I can't wait for MTV's The Challenge: Buckwild Cast vs. Making the Band's Da Band. Dylan is going to rip it and rock it.

Um. Have you watched MTV? That's already regular programming, minus the pig feet and chitlins scene.

I would have found this interesting if it read: "Rush Limbaugh penis is a weird aphrodisiac." Then you could have even left in the part about animal suffering. You know, because Rush is a beast.

That white girl in Harlem article reads like a conversation with a returning Peace Corps volunteer.

But before we get to the moral questions, can we all agree that Desi Arnaz wouldn't tolerate this? She should arrest herself for assaulting our eardrums. This is sub-terrible.

Sorry to hear about that. I have a friend who recently went through this, and I've spent hours upon hours talking this stuff through with him. The issue for him, and that he ultimately was able to convey to her, was about honesty. The relationship will only work if you can trust him. No one, even if they have…