Elomi works well for me from a nipple-stability standpoint. Nordstrom carries them and they wear like iron.

I'm pendulous, too. I find it REALLY helps perky-nipple-stability to apply a generous swipe of moisturizer or skin oil before donning the bra. I do have to readjust once in a while, but starting off a bit, well, sticky, seems to help. It's good to take a moment to caress the girls in the morning, too, "Hey girls,…