I'm not a legal expert but I think the way this would change things is in this scenario.

Fedora men have been indoctrinated with a false notion of romance by romcom plots in which every relationship between two people is a static entity uniform across the entirety of human experience. (Or maybe not, but if we can blame Meg Ryan for MRAs I don't know if I'll be shedding tears of joy or despair.) It's that…

You wouldn’t think that making sure that someone is excited and eager to get down would be so damn controversial.

Seriously: how is “damn straight, I want you to bang me like a screen door in a hurricane” a bridge too far for folks?

Parenting; you and the other boy's parents are doing it right!

Consent need not be verbal. It only needs to be affirmative, conscious, and voluntary. Those are affirmative, conscious voluntary actions which provide consent for varying degrees of sexual interaction. No misconduct board is going to hear a report from both sides saying that one person put the other person's hand…

I Googled "Rocket Surgery," and thanks to you this image is now on its way to my house, adorning a T-shirt. I hope you're happy.

I've read a lot of concern over what non-verbal/physical affirmation could possibly mean. I can only conclude that these people (read: men) have either never had sex or never had sex with a conscious person.

In my original post, I meant "safe" in a broader sense. Not necessarily "don't make babies" safe, but also "not hurting one another" safe - which kind of covers it all, since creating life inside a woman against her will could be pretty hurtful. Anyway, my point is that there's more than one kind of unsafe sex.

The law is great - it really shouldn't be hard to understand.

Seriously, if you are honestly concerned about being falsely accused of rape because your partner is too intoxicated to give consent, THAT'S RAPE. And you're an asshole.

*big middle finger*

Affirmative consent must be ongoing throughout a sexual activity...

hmmm... no. if a person is too shy to say "yes" unprompted, or in response to a specific prompt, they aren't mature enough to be having sex. they can go to therapy until they're ready to own what they want, and communicate it effectively.

This is what I don't get. Why would you want to fuck someone who wasn't enthusiastically consenting to fuck you?

WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO, JUST ASK PEOPLE FOR CONSENT?!?!?!

Yeah, it's weird how often I am saying "Yes! Yes!" during sex without even being ASKED! It's not actually that hard and it's definitely not messing up the flow of sex or anything.

What weirdos want to have sex with someone who is not clearly, affirmatively, consenting? I mean, really, having sex with someone who either cannot or did not affirmatively consent has to be a similar experience to having sex with a corpse.

Ugh, I've been debating this on a different (non-feminist related) website for a week now. So many whiny douchebros saying shit like "ugh dumb sluts who just dont want to be responsible for their drunk decisions" and "oh i guess i'm a rapist for having sex with drunk girls, fukin feminazis!!!!" It's like they don't…

To the people who object to this: Do you want to take the chance that you are going to have sex with someone who is not 100% consenting? If the answer is in any way "Yes", you need to take a good, long look at yourself.

Safe. Sane. CONSENSUAL.

if you're not getting enthusiastic consent, you aren't doing it right.