I feel like part of the analysis should be “Does it pass the white people test.” As in—would you feel okay if white people used it towards you/others that they don’t actually know. Can they unproblematically refer to Auntie Maxine, or would you be okay with them referring to Auntie Ava? If that makes you feel some…

I mean I think people are probably happiest making whatever life choices they actually believe will fulfill them as a person. Unfortunately the married/kids option is so bound up in cultural expectations that if you even asked women if they actually WANTED to be married and/or have kids it would be difficult to…

I actually think that was fair to push back on that characterization. Let’s not forget how loaded & racialized language is. I think most people think a “scuffle” involves some sort of physical interaction. (Dictionary even defines as “a short, confused fight or struggle at close quarters.”) This was words—probably…

I really hope they bring a civil suit against her.  Intentional infliction of emotional distress.  Take every freaking piece of Walmart furniture she owns.  I wish more people who were on the receiving ends of these types of incidents filed suit against the perpetrators.  You can’t leave it up to the police/ DA to…

You have severe reading comprehension difficulty. No where did I say black women already know how to do hair innately. I said exactly the opposite. And groups exist that are both how to do hair & experience with an often fraught hair life. I am not a facebook aficionado, but I presume that is why some groups are…

I didn’t see a single comment saying “Don’t learn how to do your child’s hair, black hair belongs to us!” All were saying “Fine, but get your info from this source, not that source.” No one is getting “angry” for him not knowing something he didn’t have the chance to learn.  

Absolutely. But that is on that group and what its intention is and the “a space that isn’t meant for you” critique doesn’t apply b/c it is open to folks who are dealing with natural hair issues even if not directly.

But there are also tons of open blogs where you can post questions and get feedback and do the back and forth.  But in all cases, you are still trying to translate what you are either seeing in a video or what someone is telling you in words into a hairstyle which you may or may not be gifted enough to be able to…

But a Facebook site is going to give you the same information you would get from YouTube. Or at least the process is the same—view information & try to apply it to yourself. If he is going to fail in that translation, then he is going to fail no matter the original source. Whether he is allowed into a private facebook…

I don’t necessarily understand your complaint about this, but there is a difference between a space that has been created for learning about black women’s hair and a space that has been created for black women to commiserate about experiences with their hair.

When I went in for a tour of the maternity ward pre-labor the nurse we met who had been there for over a decade (if not multiple decades) said “Pain is good!” and went on about that for a few minutes. That was terrifying that the person who could have been in charge of ensuring that I get treatment thinks pain is good…

That is probably actually an intended effect.  

It makes me wonder if things like an amnio will be banned. They are for detecting fetal abnormalities, but the procedure also has a non-trivial risk of causing a miscarriage. I wonder if that would be banned now b/c of the possible risk, and also, if you find out your fetus has an abnormality it is not like you can do…

Our bodies know what to do, but also that thing it should do also wreaks havoc.

I can’t imagine getting upset about not being able to eat at an AYCE sushi restaurant.

Right, I agree. She could be ruthless, but to some END she actually cared about. Showing her perform that ruthlessness in any of those ways you mentioned still could have been enough for the audience to see that all the naysayers were right about her being too focused on power and not being merciful and Jon being the…

But that was the whole point--she wanted to rule them ALL.  She would not be content with those she had already conquered/freed--it had to be ALL.  Does she care if they are happy?  No.  Does she care if they revolt and no longer “bend the knee” to her?  Absolutely.  

If “person with best claim to the throne wins” determined who actually sat on it, then she should have had it up until Jon’s revelation and her whole feud with Cersi should have been irrelevant—Cersei would have just nicely handed over power. It is more than just “who has the best lineage”, it is “who are the people…

I am also one who believes that this killing was out of character, and I don’t see how decimating the city AFTER winning it helped her in any way. The people were clearly terrified. There was a freaking dragon screeching above them. The army threw their weapons down without even receiving orders to surrender. The…

I disagree. She was always power hungry & entitled and potentially willing to be incredibly violent to that end, even when perhaps it was not strictly necessary. She also has a self-perception as a savior, which is partly what leads to her sense of entitlement. She was never shown to be insane or not calculating—her…