…when you’re better off talking to her about consent and coercion, and being more concerned about people she knows and trusts than strangers.

Read Jon Krakaur’s Missoula (or don’t, if you don’t want to spend a lot of time being furious and outraged). One of the major villains in the book is a female DA who was so outraged that public pressure made it harder for her to bully rape victims and coddle rapists that she quit her job to became a defense attorney…

It’s funny how the perceived value of a lucrative entertainer is clearly still higher than women’s basic human rights. “But he’s a rare talent!!” “But he attacked me!” “Well...?” *shrugs*

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Jesus Christ, the number of outraged white boys in this thread is fucking astronomical. But I’m absolutely sure if this was a man of color or any color of woman, they’d be doing the same thing. Really.

We don’t know anything until we actually know more so when dealing with the tip of the iceberg we should treat others how we would like to be treated ourselves, which to me is the basis of left wing views.

I’m not saying he is innocent or guilty, but he does deserve the presumption of innocence until a court and jury of his peers prove otherwise.

Men are fed a steady diet of assurances that they are superior to women from the moment they’re born. When I think back on how much of an ignorant sexist I was when I was younger I cringe. Men are told they're owed women and most of them believe it to a certain extent their whole lives.

Blame the media, and men growing up with decades of movies and television showing them that mediocre, and even unattractive and immature men, always get the beautiful girl. Society has trained men to pick apart women like they are products for purchase because advertisers use women’s perfect bodies to sell products.…

Oh you caught me! My feminazi, misandrist agenda has been exposed!

And the thing is, they do this as if they have a shot! That’s the part that still, even though I know about this, surprises me a little every time.

The one thing about that specific convo that killed me was when he said he doesn’t know if he will find another girl with his social intelligence. He’s not an idiot or anything, but he is by no means smart enough to the point where it’s impossible to find a girl on this level. They didn’t even talk about looks so…

Ugh when I was in high school a guy was trying to tell me how my friend is really pretty and he might ask her out if she lost weight. Now, this guy was a stoner mess of a human being who already got one girl pregnant and was doing absolutely nothing for his child, and he was just average looking. But how nice of him…

This reminds me of a conversation overheard between a good friend’s boyfriend and his best friend. It was years ago, but it’s still vivid to me because we were gobsmacked by what they were saying.

Oh I understand the aggressive part of it. I’m not trying to downplay it’s offensiveness in the least; it’s incredibly abusive. It’s just at a certain point don’t these dudes take a moment to step back and consider “what am I doing?” And “why am I doing this?” I guarantee that guys like this do it 100's of times.

I knew guys in high school who wanted to show everyone, gender be damned. They’d even give me shit for not whipping mine out at every opportunity. I can’t imagine being that obsessed over cock.

Like flashing, I think its a sexual assault—just visually, instead of actual.

It’s not stupidity but a horrible lack of respect for women. It’s okay to find women attractive. It’s not okay to harass them with obscene pictures and repeated come-ons.

My friend does this, with pics other guys have sent her. They freak out it’s hilarious. And she’s always like,”yea that’s how i felt when you sent it.”

Yeah, sorry if I came off as rowdy. I’ve been getting replies from a lot of people ranging from “completely irate” to “calm and collected” (you being part of the latter), so it’s been pretty frustrating watching my inbox blow up.