Yes, this, and it's absolutely enraging. I've had primary care of my mother since I was 13. I take her to doctor's appointments, try (unsuccessfully for the most part) to get her to take her medication correctly, manage her memory loss by answering the same three questions endlessly, calm down her panic attacks,…

True for my family. It's hard to put into exact words, but the boys were always doted on, yet expected to do less. My sister and I did 99% of the care and sacrifice when our parents were terminally ill. My sister took a leave of absence from work and I quit my job and moved back from another state to provide round the…

Time to vent:

Yep. My brother sends my mom a card every year for Mother's Day and her birthday. If I can't drive down to visit, I always call, and she always shits on me because I didn't send a fucking card.

That's been my mom's reality for many many years now. My brother better step up when the time comes. Same goes for my husband and his younger brothers.

I know of families where the daughter can never do wrong, but my own case fits your description perfectly. Don't even get me started on in-laws.

YEP. My mom and her sisters went through this with my grandmother before she passed away. Every time one of my three uncles stepped in, usually over the phone to briefly speak to my grandmother or one of her doctors, they were patting each other on the backs like they were heroes of the family. Meanwhile my mom and…

A pissing horse is just as funny as boner horse in a political ad. lol

Yes, and this is so common and so frustrating. The person who takes on the majority of the responsibility is also the one that takes on all of the criticism from the folks who cant be bothered to help out.

And they beat themselves up for not having done more/better/sooner.

Taking it literally. "I imagine" is a figure of speech.

Yup. Grandma's favorite son, besides the one that is dead, is the one that cannot be bothered to call or visit, despite living 15 minutes away. Grandma's only living daughter (my mom) is basically shit on the bottom of a busted ass shoe.

I don't have to imagine this scenario. This is my past, my present and apparently future.

I think this is more indicative of how parents tend to coddle the fuck up child and serve as their enabler/crutch. I have seen this play out in my friend's families across all genders. My boyfriend raises his daughter full time because the baby's mama is a royal deadbeat loser, but we get to hear from her mom once…

Every mexican family EVER.

Yep, yep. My mom always talks about how my brother is soooo busy with the family and the kids. Dude...he lives in a $3 million home with a gardener, cook, nanny, and housekeeper. WTF is it you think he's struggling with?

Not in my family! My sister was a horrible, selfish person who drove my parents crazy with worry and grief. But of course she got all the attention all the time. If she decided to show up for a family event, it was all they would talk about for months! Guess who got all the free $, the car, the rent paid for when she…

This was the experience in our family when my grandmother was infirm. My uncles were fawned over whenever they deigned to visit, but my mother (with whom my grandmother lived for the final six months of her life) was subject to armchair quarterbacking and nagging.

Ugh, this hits close to home. My mother was essentially the sole caregiver to her mother during her last year of life, and it drove my mom into poor health and depression (she was working full time during all of this, no less) for years afterwards. Her three brothers never lifted a finger. Then had the audacity to…

This totally went down in my family. My grandmother had Parkinson's and only 2 of her 4 kids lived in town: my mom and my uncle. My mom was the family member that always had the most responsibility for taking care of my uncle. In fact, one time my uncle invited my mom to my cousin's graduation specifically so that she…