I had that experience at NYU too, but I think it actually is pretty damaging. Once early in my freshman year, I called that Wellness number to talk about something that was really upsetting me, and they just kept asking me over and over, "Is this making you feel like hurting yourself?" I repeatedly reiterated that I…

Yup. My boyfriend actually just used this exact scenario (of selectively sending weight loss tips to heavy people) to explain to a coworker why it was inappropriate for her to send an email about Auschwitz to all the Jews in the office.

That might be part of it. But I think it's also a difference in expectations. If a girl doesn't want to have sex with her boyfriend, the guy thinks that's normal, since he's been taught to expect resistance from women. He thinks he just has to wear her down or wait until she's ready.

The symptoms can be brought on by either physical or psychological causes. I think it's essentially a problem of several distinct conditions being lumped under one label, because they all present in a similar way.

Unfortunately, even a lot of grown women don't have a great understanding of how vaginas work, so don't feel too bad about your earlier misconceptions. I think you are probably right in your assumption that it had happened to her before, rather than that she was a virgin. Girls expect the first time to be awkward…

Yeah, he just signs an Executive Order.

"[It's] not as clear as pure frustration, it's more complex than that… Perhaps I started feeling it when I'd look at my ex-girlfriend's expositional photos of herself…"

Yeah, he came back and explained that they just never had a chance to go out, but they still keep in touch. (which for some reason is still grey, even though this is his own thread.)

OK, thanks for the clarification.

I understand why you did what you did, but I also feel for your wife's side of things. It really bothers me when someone makes up a story just to see if I'll fall for it. Usually I do fall for it, because it's just not in my nature to assume people are lying for no reason, and then I feel horribly embarrassed…

Wait, so the girl was totally into you, and she loved your semi-creepy romantic gesture, but she just wasn't available for a dance, so you blew her off and never actually bothered to take her on a date? She must have been really confused and hurt. I'm not sure what about this memory would be painful for you at all.

He said he cancelled his physical therapy to help out his friends and make sure they were all right. What exactly do you think he should have done? There's not really too much you can do to improve a friend's car accident situation.

I'm not saying that your tone means that you are incorrect about the topic. I am saying your tone makes me unwilling to talk to you about it.

Considering how much you accuse me of discussing in bad faith, you sure love to insult me constantly, while I believe I have been consistently polite. I am done with this conversation.

Please don't call me 'bae' or anything similar.

It sort of reminds me of a dress I had in middle school or early high school. Not bad for some Midwestern girl awkwardly getting dressed up for an academic awards banquet - not great for a celebrity on a red carpet.

For the record, I didn't get paid to mod for them. I was a regular user who they offered a chance to help out a bit when I felt like it. I liked their service, and I thought it would be interesting, so I did occasionally.

You don't see dick pics on OKCupid. No one can message images directly to another user , so unless you've already given them your other contact information first, it's not possible. As for guys just posting dick pics on their profiles, that's extremely rare, and it gets pulled down by the mods very quickly. I used…

Uh... I agree about the race issue being a huge problem for non-white people trying to do online dating, but I'm not sure why you're trying to paint the issue as if it's somehow the fault of the creators of OKCupid. They actively bring attention to the problem with their blog, and even if they had no natural sympathy…

Good luck!