Yeah. We don't solve problems by just yelling at everyone who speaks out about the reality of those problems.

Her observations seem pretty reasonable. She's not saying that it is right for it to be that way; she's just describing the way it is. The juries are doing as they're instructed - only convicting if guilt is proven beyond a reasonable doubt. And when the only witness and accuser is not reliable, because they were…

I don't think any Sunday school teachers actually get paid.

Why don't you read the dozens of testimonies below from people saying that their families are exactly like that? Clearly my observation about family dynamics has resonated with a lot of people.

In both commercials, I couldn't even tell which actress was supposed to be the "too dark" one until she started looking sad.

I don't even mind so much that some parents like to spend a lot of time talking about their kids. That's normal; it's a big part of their life. What annoys me is when they try to police what we're allowed to say in reply, because they interpret everything we say as trying to draw an equivalence between our completely…

Yeah, I understand why it's obnoxious to the mom, but I can see the other side of that issue too. Are childless people just supposed to endlessly nod and say, "Oh, yes, you have it so hard. Nothing I have ever done could ever compare to what you do," over and over again?

Yeah, that's absolutely true. When you feel like you already look pretty damn good, it's easier to put in the effort to improve/maintain your look. If you feel like a fat schlub, it feels like there's no point, like your goal is just too far out of reach to even bother.

Well, I work out by walking/jogging around a busy neighborhood where I'm quite likely to run into someone I know, so I can sympathize with a desire for flattering exercise wear. Recently a guy texted me to ask me out as a result of seeing me out jogging, and all I could think was, "Oh, god, what did I look like?" (I…

Ah, yes. I was always expected to sleep on a couch when I came home for the holidays, while my brother got a bedroom, because he was a guest. And I always ended up doing most of the cooking, and then my brother would complain about the mealtimes and criticize me for not doing enough, while he did nothing at all.

That really just makes me want to take away the star I gave you to get you out of the grey so that your voice could be heard.

Hey, I am an expert on horse boners! At last my chance to shine! At least, I grew up around horses, and have witnessed pretty much all their natural functions from birth to death at various times. I can testify that AdRants is right - there's nothing sexual about the configuration of that horse's dick. Even…

Unfortunately, that's often true around here. But if No1251 wants to give ample anecdotal evidence of all the times he's seen male offspring judged more harshly than their sisters for similar actions, I won't dismiss him.

This is a discussion board, not a scientific journal, asshole. Anecdotal evidence/experience is not prohibited here; it's the whole point. I have seen this effect play out many times in many family dynamics, including my own, over a range of issues.

I imagine in a lot of families, there's also the effect where if a son does anything at all, he is applauded as being so generous and attentive. But no matter how much the daughter does, she gets nit-picked for not doing enough or not doing it exactly right.

Yeah, if we learned anything from Frankenstein, it should be that immediately abandoning your creation doesn't usually turn out well. Unless she's a sexy hamster, apparently. She'll be down for anything no matter how much you treat her like crap.

I wasn't really upset when I first clicked. I mean, if you have humanoid hamsters, you're going to have lady versions too, and it's probably going to be pretty dumb and slightly sexist, but whatever. I didn't understand how they think this will sell cars, but it didn't upset me too much.

Agreed.

I liked it, but then, one of my favorite cafes is actually in a grocery store.

Good point!