Yeah, presumably he knows perfectly well that this shit isn't aboveboard and he wouldn't get away with it in Japan (or find enough women desperate enough to be surrogates for him). This is definitely morally icktastic, but I too wonder if there's any point of law he can be nailed on as long as he's paying for the…

May I suggest that you let her decide around who she wants to be out to in the family, and how she handles that? I have a gay friend married to another woman, and although her parents have been mostly accepting, they have forbidden her to tell her grandparents, going so far as to strongly imply the news will literally…

Also, most people who sexually abuse children are not paedophiles; they're predators who exploit children's lack of power. (Most have adult partners.)

Try pajiba.com? Intelligent movie and pop-culture discussion, and a mixed-gender but mostly feminist commenting base. It gets the odd spam comment, but anything misogynist will get leapt on faster than you can say "Cumberbatch".

The power of knowing he is actively violating consent.

She would be unable to fly - she likely has no form of valid ID. Taking a ferry also requires a form of ID - a passport, unless you are a British or Irish citizen. You can't just wander on and off. Also she almost certainly has no money.

Lots of people have trouble trusting anyone because of shit their parents did to them. If a relationship is important enough (and a dude you plan to marry is pretty important), hell yeah it can mess up your perspective on all your relationships.

While this is very encouraging, a hearty "ugh" to the whole "will you be letting your friends down if you DON'T rape this drunk girl?" thing. Is there anything we can do to try and eradicate THAT whole idea earlier?

Bonus points for "gob", even if not followed by "-smacked" or prefaced by "shut yer".

Unless she's a sociopath, in which case she may be undisturbed.

My ice-lolly-eating (damn this hot summer in the UK), working-from-home-on-a-Swiss-ball self salutes you!

on the plus side, thanks for making me feel better about the fact that I've just confirmed mine to start at 37 weeks. I've been feeling (ridiculously) all icky about being a slacker. (What do you mean, that's super-cold comfort for you?)

Sigh. Despite plenty of recommends, I'm not followed by anyone, and I thought I'd spent a decent amount of time making reasoned contributions. The time zone always used to be against me; most posts would rack up hundreds of comments from the US while I was sleeping, and nobody was about to delve into the greys on an…

Sure, the occasional very rare teenager is such an asshole that they kill their parents for a petty reason. But if you don't abuse your kids, you're probably more likely to be struck by lightning than killed by them, whereas as a kid, your parents are, statistically, a significant and ever-present threat to your…

I realise we're not having the most seriousest discussion here, but it is so so unlikely that your kids will ever kill you if you don't abuse them in any way. Like, it practically never happens (thus, news) whereas parents kill their kids every damn day of the week.

Fair enough, and I certainly don't follow people doing this sneering at them or anything. But I bet this isn't the reason for it in 99.9% of "street style" photos, and it still seems like a better solution would be 1) carrying the coat 2) wearing something lighter.

Thank God for that; the idea of it going on until death was just too exhausting. I was frankly hoping that my now-visible pregnancy would kill it off more than it has done.

Ohhh man, the draping your coat over your shoulders thing. All you've communicated is that you're so invested in looking "nonchalantly cool", you're willing to render yourself unable to use your arms. Get a grip. (Literally.)

I can't think of any way that this isn't a restatement of the all-too-usual response to sexual harassment, assault, and rape being called out. "Sure, these things are problems and all, but do you ladies have to, like, talk about them publicly? That's so unseemly and unladylike."

If you can afford it, I would absolutely take her to the vet and get their advice on euthanasia. It's a gentle and painless end, and it sounds like she is very close anyway, so it may be best for both of you to give her that, and be able to hold her and know that she won't suffer at all.