Ugh, I've heard about the grossness of OKC for bi ladies. So sorry, people are awful... Why the hell can't ladies have a Scissr app or something?

It's okay. It's a sad, sad, sad, sad, sad topic, and it deserves all of those sads, sadly.

That sounds lovely. Until, of course, it starts getting incestuous, as it is wont to do.

Really? Huh. Maybe it's just my area? The queer circle for dating is abysmally small in my town.

I cannot accurately describe my frustration and will therefore smash my hands on the keyboard until I feel it accurately expresses those frustrations. IGH Iwrhg uioah gwjet9 srtjg ig.

Ahhh. I suppose that does make me feel a bit better. Part of this developing neurosis is that I've always been attracted to more feminine girls and now my tastes seem to be shifting masculine along with my dress taste, so my worry-brain is taking that and runnin' with "what if?!". I've had opportunity to have male…

EXACTLY. I mean, everyone is SOMEone's ex... it's just super weird when it's always the ex of someone you know or maybe have fucked.

I have heard nothing but horror stories from my queer friends on OKCupid. Most of 'em are pretty well-adjusted individuals, so it can't just be that all my amigos are freaks...

Looks like the male queers are stuck with Grindr and the female queers are stuck with dating each other's exes (which is an incredibly bad and quasi-incestuous way of dating when a whole community does it, if you ask me.)

Precisely so. I suppose that's why I personally haven't noticed a great deal of slut-shaming in my own queer minibubble (dunno how it is elsewhere) - how the fuck are you going to decide who keeps gate?

If it makes you feel any better, that's how I'd prefer to get into most of my relationships and it's roughly (ROUGHLY.) how I got into my last one.

Would it be safe to say that if sex is a terrible experience there's clearly a classic case of "doing it wrong" ("it" here meaning either sex or communication about sex or both) on behalf of either or both parties? Or would that make me a slut and make the Virgin Mary cry tears of menstrual blood while baby cherubs…

Q: Since, by the heterosexist definition (which I assume you follow,) a woman fingering/being fingered by/getting oral from/giving oral to other women is not technically "sex"... am I technically a virgin and do I therefore benefit from the Special Blessing that God bestows upon virgins? Would this clause include an…

"the butt dances"

Hell, as a female, when I'm not stressed as hell (... like now) I'm a walking fucking lustball. Show me a cute girl and OHP looks like we're wasting twenty minutes wondering what her hair smells like!

I don't care if other people do it at concerts (as I recall, John Meyer started on time to the concert of his that I was dragged to way back when, and Meyer's a fucking douchecanoe), she doesn't have to show up late to CHARITY EVENTS. That's incredibly disrespectful to her fans. As someone who had (BOX. SEAT.) tickets…

"three naked young girls crawling on all fours with dog leashes around their necks while three men (likely Castro's brothers, who were also arrested this week) watched"

That text and that gif combine to make adorable.

I would... but I live/work in a very conservative area, and I'm paranoid someone might find the linked account. I think I'll make a fake Twitter instead, Lord knows I don't use that.

Aghhhhh I am so terrified of being That Girl, you have no idea. I've been uberstressed for the last 3 months so I - for once! - do not have my Raging She-Hulk libido, and I haven't been sexually active in many moons regardless... so every time I have a warm feeling for a dudefriend I become terrified that I may…