I find it a bit macabre to watch the video and speculate, but I also am having a hard time getting it out of my mind. At around 1:58, just before she starts doing the hand thing, it looks to me like she smiles, which actually scares the heck out of me. The version of the video here is a bit clearer (at the "smile" is…

I think the 33 is actually the bust size, which is measured along the fullest part of the bust — not the band size.

I agree that verbal abuse is a form of DV. I still think the sentence is in incredibly poor taste.

"Rihanna is getting beaten up — again. This time, it's by women."

Yes!

Huh. I always assumed the scar was metaphorical, because the lyrics later mention him trying to "take it (the scar) back." So, emotional scars, which doesn't indicate DV at all — sometimes that's just the result of a failed relationship. I also assumed the "carry you home tonight" was metaphorical. Maybe I'm leaning…

My friend just told me (basically) the same thing this week, that it makes me sound insincere and seem like I'm preoccupied with pleasing people. I think she might have a point.

Yup, I'm in the same boat. I basically auto-apologize.

I second this. Lots of links that actually work...

Funny enough, the Canadian government announced just today it's planning on getting rid of its Jus Soli law.

Thank you so much for adding the credit information, I'm sure the artist appreciates it. Also, I totally understood that you saw it as commentary, not as advice on modesty. I think its scary how many people aren't getting the message, though.

The artist is a friend of a friend — I really wish Jezebel would edit this post to include the proper credit to Rosea.

Absolutely. This is a time for empathy. The Cut article mentioned goes into more detail about this, I would definitely recommend it if you haven't looked it over yet.

I was just thinking about all the rationalizations I gave — to myself, friends, and family — when I was caught in an abusive relationship. While I in no way want to assign intentions to someone I've never met, I do wonder if — had I been an author — penning a book that framed my experiences in a positive light would…

Agreed. And agreed.

Agreed. I normally don't click on these types of things, but for some reason I did this time. I stopped watching it after a few seconds, that's how upsetting it was. And now I feel guilty, as if I somehow violated her by participating. Lesson learned. Poor Adele, and poor baby :(

You're absolutely right. It's important to be grateful for the fact that she said ANYTHING about male education and prevention, and that it got reported. And I often forget that you can't always speak your mind freely as a public figure.

This.

I completely agree, many men need to be educated about when consent cannot legally be given. Chief Lanier is totally correct there, which is why I originally liked her comment.

"It's not just educating young women to protect themselves and be careful with people that they don't really know that are acquaintances," she said. "Young men, I don't think some of them realize that having sex with a person who is too intoxicated to give consent is really criminal assault." — D.C. Police Chief Cathy…