“New Zealand’s the place to go. The people are 100 percent present. They are not walking across the street on their cellphones.”

Lily Tomlin had a great comedy routine about the phone company that featured the catchphrase, “We don’t care. We don’t have to.”

All of my life my father has disliked me for a few reasons. One, I’m a gay male. Two, when I was maybe thirteen he tried to butch me up by taking me to a baseball game. Even back then — a thirteen-year-old in 1968 — I knew the National Anthem was a lie and I refused to stand up for it.

I disagree. If a Christian co-worker kept telling a gay man that the Bible says he’s going to hell, it might be true: the Bible might say that. But it’s also creating a hostile work environment. Calling women in tech — even “on average” — neurotic does this too.

I don’t care which he says. What is the effect in the workplace when men walk around saying, “The average female isn’t as smart or ambitious as a man and doesn’t work as hard”?

Every woman in tech that he meets he assumes isn’t as good as a man, and when she quits it’s because she needs a “work-life balance” that men don’t require. That’s why I called him smug: he has a solid argument with way too much thought behind it and 11 footnotes — and he’s not interested in the fact that it’s…

Here’s one example of smug hatefulness. The memo says “Humans are biased towards protecting females.” This is why we want equal rights for them. Solution? “De-emphasize empathy. I’ve heard several calls for increased empathy on diversity issues. Relying on affective empathy causes us to focus on anecdotes and harbor…

I completely agree, and I appreciate your restraint in criticizing me! Sorry, I should have said his rational argument was wrong too. The Root has a great piece about how stupid it is, in particular the fact that the writer faults women in tech for being neurotic without wondering if it’s the men in tech who drove…

IT’S NOT ATTEMPTED MURDER! WHAT HAS POLITICAL CORRECTNESS COME TO WHEN A GUY CAN’T EVEN JOG IN PEACE???

The memo is actually a very rational argument. It’s just smug and hateful and sounds like its author is doomed to a life where the only conversation is talking back to his PlayStation.

Thanks for this, and thanks for pointing out exactly what was wrong with that recent “I love my fat wife!” post. You got it exactly right: his main point wasn’t that the world was f’ed up with body shaming, it was “Look how cool I am!” We can do without those posts for an hour or two, white guys.

Don’t hurt me, but at some point don’t Rihanna fans say, “Okay, girl, maybe put the boobs away for a photo or two”?

I was around when Warhol was alive and you wouldn’t believe his lousy reputation. He was a total sellout, making those multiple silk screens (or having his assistants make them, more likely) of anybody who’d fork out something like $20,000. And the worst people did it in an attempt at credibility — I’m thinking of…

“[W]e should be able to discuss this without instantly shaming/closing off the opposing viewpoint.”

That’s a whole nother problem.

His t-shirt: “ACCEPTING APPLICATION 4A SUGAR BABY”

It makes two people happy and it cuts your calorie intake in half. That’s why couples should share dessert too, including ice cream cones.

I get pissed off shen I look at the men accompanying women in burkas. They’re all in polo shirts and dockers and jewelry, like “I’m glad I get to look like a regular person!”

It’s not like she bought half of Hormel and started screaming about the glories of Spam. She bought it because she believed in it, and now she’s pushing it because she believes it. You can actually be honorable and a spokesperson (look under “Kardashian” for the other extreme).

I know! Forcing me to stare at those gross hairless legs, and creepy-smooth feet with tiny knuckles. Ew!