That part of his statement got to me, too. It was like he thought that was some sort of revelatory and exculpatory statement. Uh, OK, dude. We hear this shit all the time from predators. Of course they don’t think they’re predators. They just think they’re entitled to women, or entitled to exercise power over someone…

Earlier today I replied here that I didn’t remember the Trump/Hitler speeches story because there is a constant avalanche of Trump related shit in the news cycle that I couldn’t remember that already being a story. It’s not great that the leader of the free world keeping speeches Hitler made in his office is a detail…

Men (and all people in a position to harass): you are not in a position to say if you are a predator or not. Those on the receiving end of your actions are the ones who get to define if you are a predator or not. GET IT TOGETHER.

Yesterday at the library I had to have a long circular conversation with a patron who is convinced that A) he does not have to bathe and B) our staff is lying about him when we say he is simply too stinky to have in the building until he bathes and changes his clothes. He cannot be convinced that he stinks, because he…

‘Don’t share your good news in case it becomes bad news so that you won’t have to share the bad news.’

I especially understand the professional reasons as well as the personal reasons for not sharing too early (unsolicited advice would probably force me to hide the pregnancy until the kid was in college) but after my former boss went in on her colleague for sharing her news early especially since she was “no spring…

Just like child rape, there is only one valid defense to having sex with someone in police custody -

“But why don’t women come forward????”

I can see what you’re saying but I also can see some possibility that he’s sincere. It’s hard to know. I’m not sure what else someone can say when they’ve done something really wrong. What you’re seeing as him trying to excuse his behavior can also be seen as him trying to explain it; Anonymous does seem to want an…

I find it very difficult to believe he didn’t know she was sleeping. I mean, that’s why he did it, right? Because she was asleep she couldn’t say no. Because she was asleep she couldn’t get up and walk away or bat his hands away.

No person needs to be educated not to touch an unknown sleeping person and no man needs to be taught not to molest women - that is common decency.

I think men should be taught a lot more about consent. I don’t think it’s addressed for boys at all and that lack of discussion is harmful for everyone.

Yes, I agree. Consent and education are key. But, as a man, this man just comes off as still wanting to excuse his own behavior. Even his meek protestations ring hollow and he equivocates on his motives and details of the scenario itself. No person needs to be educated not to touch an unknown sleeping person and no…

Thank you for sharing this.

“I’m still learning that I don’t have to smile when a man makes me uncomfortable”

Also, if someone doesn’t drink (for whatever reason), don’t assume they have a problem with others drinking. I’ve never been a drinker due to family history and outside of getting new people to the point of accepting they’re not going to convince me to drink, the biggest thing I run into is the assumption that if I…

I’m not sure which line-reading made me laugh harder: Tim talking about the cheating or Kenya’s unenthusiastic “These Pilot erasable pens are awesomely dope.”