I think you're just refusing to understand the complexity of the issue. Any reasonable person can judge a light tap from a hard smack. One leaves a mark and lingering pain. Most reasonable (and educated) people know that a culture of objectification is damaging not because of one instance but because of the collect…

lol did u 4 real just say 'colored'

I would agree that it's not problematic, but I also understand the reaction and, as black woman, kind of roll my eyes at it too. I guess I was just trying to explain how it sometimes comes across, even if that isn't the intent.

Smacking someone lightly isn't usually a problem. They'll generally brush it off or interpret it as playful. Smacking them, with the exact same force but over and over and over and over again will become a problem. How harmless a thing is very often has to do with it's frequency and intensity. The most benign action…

I can't speak for anyone but myself but I don't think objectification is problematic in and of itself. I think a culture which continually and mercilessly objectifies one group, to that group's detriment, is a problem. If we had full equality, I'd like to think that a bit of objectification there and there wouldn't be…

I think what's being picked up on here is that the way her features are presented/edited makes her seem almost a caricature of blackness? It's like when white women see a big curly afro and go on and on about how 'beautiful' it is. Feels like exotification. She has big lips, high cheekbones and wide set, almond eyes…

there's nervous and then there's hitting your own mother. A kid who is moderately rude around strangers is a complete dick at home, no exceptions.

can you cite that majority of the assaulted women in military are assaulted by a higher up? I don't believe that's the case.

Nightlife and fashion photography are famous for tits. Mine are floating around all over the Internet (including gawker, actually) thanks to all the partying I did in NYC during my college years. I was told to show my tits so many times I began to do it without being asked. But guess what? I had a lot of fun and not…

It's actually really frustrating to convey just how shocking these things tend to be. I'm a mouthy, aggressive, type A personality. I don't shy away from conflict ever but both times I was sexually assaulted, I didn't do a thing while it happened.

Have you already packed your son into his spaceship in order for him to travel to the 'hostile anti-male world'?

I think we need to do a bit of differentiating in language between mental illnesses with biological markers and those that are a bit more general in that they are, as the makers of the DSM intended them to be, 'categories of human suffering.' As it stands both 'the worried well' and people with 'real' illnesses are…

Maybe it's because I spend most of my time with pre-schoolers but the most disturbing thing about all of this, for me, is that the obsession began so young and she never grew out of it.

If it makes you feel any better, 'ban men' is behind 'white slavery' on the liberal agenda, so you've still got plenty of time to be a total fuck face.

This. This was what I needed today.

I've always felt it's a bit....banal how excited some women get to see their (perceived) flaws in other women. Like 'oh my god, look we have the same patch of cellulite right here!'

Meh, there are tons of better trolls out there. Glenn Beck springs to mind.

Do people *let* their dogs hump their legs? I got mine a teddy bear. Well, I didn't get it for her, it was originally mine but she was more than welcome to keep it after she deflowered it so roughly it lost an arm.

Amazing how many fair-skinned people here don't know that sunblock and sunscreen aren't the same thing. I'm brown and I know this.

This is so true. I take care of kids in Paris and am amazed at how easy it is to keep the kids entertained. Most Parisian kids I work with aren't allowed to watch tv and only occasionally watch movies. The young ones rarely play video games or own a console. They don't even need a playground and will 'play' in a…