Thank you for responding! Yes, there are certainly a lot of ideas that work with healthy marriages that aren’t going to work as well when a marriage is in crisis.

That’s great. I realize that if you already have a healthy supportive relationship, this sort of thing just works and seems natural and you probably don’t need to have someone say “Hey, take turns and respect each other’s goals” because you just do that. In my personal situation, it turned into angry quid pro quo…

I’ve always used the metaphor of a couch for marriage. A good marriage is like a good strong couch - you can put stress on it and wear and tear but if it’s built well and you take care of it, it will last. A bad marriage is like a cheap couch from Ikea. It looks good and if you take care of it, it might last. But if…

It really is difficult. I think in the past this is when families could rely more on extended families to help out and babysit so that couples truly got a break from their full-time M-F job whether that’s parenting or working in an office. Being around small kids is exhausting so your wife deserves a break but then so…

I think that the trap you can fall into with this is that it turns into a quid pro quo sort of arrangement. Both myself and a friend of mine who also has marriage problems have said that this model doesn’t work if there isn’t a good amount of communication and warm feelings leading up to this choice.

If your marriage…

Going through a divorce is hard. Going through a divorce when your ex instantly starts dating someone you suspect was there all along is extra hard. But lord, crying Instagrams is not a way to deal with this. Call your friends. Go out for drinks. Have them come over for drinks because it’s cheaper and divorce is…

I agree. And I am hoping to see a flashback episode about Lydia this season. I am dying to know the backstory on that character. Who was she before Gilead? How did she get this role? What on earth is she thinking?

I used to wear Elizabeth Arden scents years and years and years ago and then when I first got pregnant, smells made me so sick so I stopped wearing perfume. And I still get headaches with so many scents but I really do like Jo Malone - they just smell clean - not so artificial.

Hey if the guy who played Lex Luthor or the guy that played Superman on Smallville join your sex cult, I’m there. Will also take any other CW stars who are past the age of 30.

Yes! I got a sample of the basil once and it was such a unique smell but so good.

That’s my friend’s favorite scent so when I get samples for that one, I give them to her and if she gets the earl grey samples, she gives them to me.

I actually like Cabi clothes and didn’t realize they were party clothes. A very trendy co-worker retired and gave me a bunch of her old work clothes and she had a lot of Cabi items. I’ve only ever seen them sold on zulily.

Are you sure it’s not a sex cult? It kind of sounds like a sex cult.

A friend turned me onto Jo Malone perfumes. Granted, they’re not celebrity scents but they’re a nice brand - I’ve found them at Saks or Nordstrom. I have loved every scent I’ve gotten from them. Right now they’re doing this seasonal Cherry Blossom that is fantastic. They smell very clean and fresh and whether you like…

They need to work fast because I have a whole day of meetings tomorrow and I’d honestly rather just be in a sex cult than have to talk about budget cuts.

My weakness is mom events. I work full time so I never get to see the other moms at school and I’d love to get to know them better. So I will get invites for things like “Come over to my house for an afternoon tea!” and I’ll think “Oh awesome, maybe I’ll get to meet some of the other moms and I can go to a trivia…

If you joined a sex cult in upstate New York, you might be able to get some couch time to yourself. Once the chores, the branding and the sexing is done with for the day. Does the sex cult get cable or high speed internet?

If they’re open about it, I do. I’ve had a few that are like “Hey, lets get the kindergarten moms together at my place!” and I think “Oh yeah, it would be good to meet other moms” and then I’m sitting there listening to a lecture on cleaning products.

I’m glad to just be a non-celebrity boring midwest mom because I fall for that “it’s a bunch of women and we share experiences and support each other” crap all the time. But in my world, it just means I get stuck going to a lot of MLM parties rather than being recruited for a sex cult. Although to be honest, I’d…

I loved Aspects of Love and still do and I have a friend who is a theatre critic and she’s always like “You are the only person in the universe who liked that musical.” And I also tell her that Sunset Boulevard was garbage.