I agree with that, but that still qualifies as an ultimatum for a lot of people.

Just... tell him it’s time. It’s been seven years, you’re not going anywhere, and unless he’s planning on going somewhere, it’s time to do this thing that’s really important to you.

But where does a boundary end and a manipulative ultimatum begin?

As tends to happen with couples over the age of 30, my husband and I knew this was IT very quickly.

Reducing the desire for a public, legal and sometimes religious marriage to a party and a piece of jewelry is profoundly demeaning to the values and priorities of people who aren’t you.

Admit it, you do suffer from anxiety regular bouts of self-loathing. That’s why you need your children’s obedience to prop you up and give you very temporary relief. Don’t pass that on to your kids. Just, don’t.

I did embarass my parents! That’s because I don’t exist as an extension of them. They think I’m pretty great now that I’m not a teen living at home.

I understand that and I agree with all of it in general. It doesn’t apply to THIS particular situation.

What part of my comment blamed a teacher for the girl’s decision to look at her phone in class?

She wasn’t willing to go to jail over a cell phone. Some nut job adults with no sense of proportion or basic comprehension of cause and effect were willing to put her in jail over a cell phone.

My kids follow rules and respect authority.

So what infractions CAN a university investigate? Should they be barred from expelling students for plagarism and smoking in the dorms until a criminal investigation takes place? Should WestPoint bring in the local cops to determine whether a cadet broke code by lying to an administrator?

And the part just happens to be that of a middle aged, middle class, middle American white guy.

I would be interested to see this science about athletic ability and will definitely look out for it.

Yeah, I don’t think those are comparable adjectives within the context of this conversation.

Again, I agree with you on the whole, but I do believe there are some kinks that will have to be ironed out over time, a la, the athletic competition scenario. This is NOT a hypothetical as there are trans-women fighting to be let into women’s competition as we speak. Neither is the trans-women modeling scenario — a…

I’m not saying they should, but I could see why it would be a traditional feminist position to put the comfort of cis-women first. I sure as hell don’t think trans-women and trans-activists should prioritize cis-women’s feelings at the expense of trans-women’s needs. I have no problem with people — like myself — who…

No, I’m saying that many cis-women (and girls) feel like they’re letting guys into their safe spaces. I am not among those cis-women. I personally welcome trans-women into locker rooms.

So, I agree with almost everything you’re saying, but I still don’t think you understand the broader point I was making about the what cis women may be being asked to give up to fully incorporate trans women. Also, you’re right, to call trans-women “biologically male” is a gross simplification. By that I mean women…

Aw, thanks. It really is an impossible issue. I have a devoutly religious coworker, in her late fifties, who over time has grown to be as pro gay equality (and even “It’s not my place to judge a woman’s decision”), but she’s still not there with transgenderism. She doesn’t have an abstract problem with trans-women,…