But where does a boundary end and a manipulative ultimatum begin?

As tends to happen with couples over the age of 30, my husband and I knew this was IT very quickly.

Reducing the desire for a public, legal and sometimes religious marriage to a party and a piece of jewelry is profoundly demeaning to the values and priorities of people who aren’t you.

Admit it, you do suffer from anxiety regular bouts of self-loathing. That’s why you need your children’s obedience to prop you up and give you very temporary relief. Don’t pass that on to your kids. Just, don’t.

I did embarass my parents! That’s because I don’t exist as an extension of them. They think I’m pretty great now that I’m not a teen living at home.

I understand that and I agree with all of it in general. It doesn’t apply to THIS particular situation.

What part of my comment blamed a teacher for the girl’s decision to look at her phone in class?

She wasn’t willing to go to jail over a cell phone. Some nut job adults with no sense of proportion or basic comprehension of cause and effect were willing to put her in jail over a cell phone.

My kids follow rules and respect authority.

So what infractions CAN a university investigate? Should they be barred from expelling students for plagarism and smoking in the dorms until a criminal investigation takes place? Should WestPoint bring in the local cops to determine whether a cadet broke code by lying to an administrator?

And the part just happens to be that of a middle aged, middle class, middle American white guy.

I would be interested to see this science about athletic ability and will definitely look out for it.

Yeah, I don’t think those are comparable adjectives within the context of this conversation.

Again, I agree with you on the whole, but I do believe there are some kinks that will have to be ironed out over time, a la, the athletic competition scenario. This is NOT a hypothetical as there are trans-women fighting to be let into women’s competition as we speak. Neither is the trans-women modeling scenario — a…

I’m not saying they should, but I could see why it would be a traditional feminist position to put the comfort of cis-women first. I sure as hell don’t think trans-women and trans-activists should prioritize cis-women’s feelings at the expense of trans-women’s needs. I have no problem with people — like myself — who…

No, I’m saying that many cis-women (and girls) feel like they’re letting guys into their safe spaces. I am not among those cis-women. I personally welcome trans-women into locker rooms.

So, I agree with almost everything you’re saying, but I still don’t think you understand the broader point I was making about the what cis women may be being asked to give up to fully incorporate trans women. Also, you’re right, to call trans-women “biologically male” is a gross simplification. By that I mean women…

Aw, thanks. It really is an impossible issue. I have a devoutly religious coworker, in her late fifties, who over time has grown to be as pro gay equality (and even “It’s not my place to judge a woman’s decision”), but she’s still not there with transgenderism. She doesn’t have an abstract problem with trans-women,…

All opinions and viewpoints aren’t equally valid, which is why you let them be expressed and the good ideas win out.

Universities have a different standard than, say, private businesses because they exist to foster intellectual debate in a dialectical fashion.