I gave him the chance to clarify, but he didn't. THEN I read his comment history. :-/

He's not that far gone :)

Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but it sounds to me like what you're describing is pattern recognition that signals an emotional response as a way of shortcutting through step-by-step memory or logical process.

Do you honestly think that applies to examples people are talking about here? We're not talking about witness testimony in court, we're talking about repeated situations women say they experience universally.

I worked in a numbery kind of industry, and this comes up in surprising ways. It's fucking MATH. I've noticed that project teams tend to skew male or female.

So you're saying that humans are incapable of understanding what happened to them? Period? That is has no bearing on learning and understanding, generally?

OMG, yes. I've been trying to convince my husband that he should quit his job and go to grad school full time because the benefits will accrue over the long term much more quickly for BOTH of us (and that's even before we get to tax benefits). He can't get over the idea of being "supported". At least he realizes…

I don't think it is, under government law. I could be wrong, but I believe the government is theoretically secular.

By not realizing that they automatically doubt the person, and thus come up with ways to rationalize the situation in a way that's more psychologically comfortable to them.

The whole men act rationally while women don't is one of the greatest cons ever foisted on humans. You see this a lot when it comes to financial decision making, that it's assumed her reasoning is specious when his is truly emotional. (Note: I'm not saying that men don't or can't make rational financial decision, or…

"Innocent" is such a weird word to use in this use in the context. It implies that what she didn't do was criminal.

This is why talking about issues women face spirals so quickly. "X happened to me." "Nah, it was probably something else altogether." We're considered unreliable witnesses and interpreters of our own experiences.

Hey, don't let anyone tell you should be in a romantic relationship. You do what you need to do to be and feel safe. You're not going to have a happy, healthy relationship if you're in the place for it, anyway. I sincerely hoping you're taking care of you right now. You deserve it so much.

If you still have it, you should do the genius a favor and publish it here. Be sure to include his name so he gets credit for his brilliance.

My tent was about 800, with a dance floor, and we did our own lighting. 30 x 45. I don't know how we got that deal, because no one else in the area came close.

Your wedding sounds very similar to mine, except for the custom gown. We also had a tented wedding on my mom's property (Hudson Valley), that was very kid friendly. Shopping for toys at the dollar store may have been the most fun part. I also planned it in about four months, and had a BLAST.

My wedding was a bit more than that, but you better be damned sure we had the deli platter brunch the next day! Smoked fish is required for all important occasions.

As others have pointed out, it's probably because someone put that shit on her. Luckily for our daughters, we may be the generation that stops that shit.

I'm so sorry.

Yes! I never felt like I had a figure to maintain, so I didn't.