No way, are they still together? My aunt got married on her third husband's birthday (because he had to get married by 40, and it was his 40th) and they're still together. I attribute a lot of that to my uncle's saint-like determination to be married.

That totally counts! That's really sweet.

That's a really great story. It's nice to hear from a hesitant bride.

Aw! Rites are important and shouldn't be pooh-poohed that you wanted that. One day you're on this side of the line, and then you're on the other. That's big and important (and why I wanted a ring, even if not a formal proposal).

I imagine it was six weeks of this:

Aw, that's really sweet and so damn normal. I was ready first, but it meant so much more to me that my husband got to HERE without me pushing and prodding.

I think that's why we ultimately skipped that part of the process. It was more of a "hey, do we have time to look at rings this weekend?", followed by a "time to sit down and talk about the wedding itself."

I'm sentimental like this, but I think it's so damn romantic that you both cared enough to go through the process of reading those books and discussing every.

They should have to take off time from work with no pay, drive 100 miles, walk through a gauntlet of people screaming at you, get a trans-whatever wand shoved inside them, cross the gauntlet again, spend the night in a Super8 motel, and repeat the next day. THEN they can sign the form.

How much time passed between the time you decided to get married and the time of your proposal?

This was my proposal: "The ring is sitting there in the bag, you might as well start wearing it" after we'd returned from the jewelry shop. Which is to say, it wasn't a proposal so much as a mutual decision that, yeah, we'd like to get married now. We'd been talking about it since about six months into our…

Hah. My husband is adamant that no big events ever be scheduled on other big days. No proposals on holidays, etc.

I'm completely baffled that grown, successful adults are in any way emotionally connected their college aged tribal association.

But in a typical trial, the judge ultimately determines what the defense can or cannot see. The defense isn't allowed to go fishing through all your medical records, regardless of relevance to the issue at hand.

Clearly you need a threatening compost pile.

That is so fucking adorable, I can't stand it. I was teasing about my brother. I mean, it's true, but it's my mom's doing.

But the results of your work don't suggest BIOLOGICAL causes for the behavioral patterns you observe, barring studies involving measurable brain injuries or hormone levels, etc. You observe behavior based on stimulus you can identify as a variable. "Our ancestors (may have) lived in a hunter-gatherer society" is…

But the results of your work don't suggest BIOLOGICAL causes for the behavioral patterns you observe, barring studies involving measurable brain injuries or hormone levels, etc. You observe behavior based on stimulus you can identify as a variable. "Our ancestors (may have) lived in a hunter-gatherer society" is not…

Haha. Yeah, little brains are still learning how to reason. They're not born ready to respond to logic.

Serious answer — Have you tried backing off and saying, "Okay, you're not ready to be a big boy yet, but you will be." And then, over time, associating the training with being a "big boy" while pointing out the privileges that "big boys" get? Something like, "You can watch that cartoon when you're a big boy." And…