I’m fine with people who wanna do drugs, but this article is irresponsible. There are places that will straight up execute your ass for bringing even recreational amounts into their country.

This is one of the many, many things that drives me bonkers about this “discussion.” The Facebook messages between the accuser and the accused don’t prove anything, one way or the other, but somehow, to her detractors, the messages have become incontrovertible truth that Sulkowicz is lying.

I giggled. And after reading a lot of the comments on this thread, it was needed!

I agree, and while I don’t think that our judicial system knows how to handle these cases particularly well either, universities have a blatant conflict of interest and definitely should not be adjudicating these situations. I think that both Emma and Paul were done a great disservice.

I wish more places did follow up reporting. I don’t think it’s sufficient to drop a story once it’s no longer “hot.”

It doesn’t bother me, per se, but it does highlight how inadequate the college judicial system is for both accuser and accused.

Good point. I wish Jezebel would do a follow up with their reporting.

I thought Jezebel corresponded with the person.

So, she was buddy buddy with him on Facebook? I still don’t think those messages prove anything other than the complicated-ness of the situation. They certainly don’t prove that she is lying. I mean, how do you explain to yourself people who stay in abusive relationships?

There was another accusation of assault besides those two.

How has it been proven? Her facebook messages to him don’t prove shit.

Fuck yeah! Go Emma!

Well, this makes my vagina feel drier than usual.

Thank you for this. I’ve had a rough few weeks. I cut contact with my mom and I still struggle with the decision because I feel that unlike a lot of other dysfunctional parents, my mom was never cruel or intentionally mean. She was/is just so self-focused and unstable that she never was able to understand the impact…

I know! I kept watching her hands while watching that video. Her hands are gorgeous. So much character.

The cognitive disconnection of these people who say and do racists things but still insist that they are not and could never be racist terrifies me. You’re singing about killing and hanging N-’s from a tree. It’s still racist even if it “doesn’t reflect how (you) really feel.”

I respectfully disagree. You are not racist now, but you were certainly racist then. “Saying and thinking awful things” makes you racist. Immaturity, sheltered-ness and brainwashing might be explanations, but they not excuses. Racism is learned. The adults in your life who modeled racism for you, most likely learned…

Marriage didn't really seem appealing to me until I my boyfriend and I talked about traveling the world and I realized that I want this person to have legal authority in my life in case I end up in the hospital or something.

Do you think there's any middle ground you can find? Maybe not "marriage" but "domestic partnership" or a a "civil union"? Still formal, but less loaded than perhaps marriage might be to someone who's experienced a very bitter parental divorce.

I know what you mean. This article gave me hives.