How do I fix the part where I’m ugly at any angle or lighting?

Best way to take a selfie is to hand someone else the camera.

There’s also something creepy about the subtle “accidental pregnancies may make some childfree-by-choicers someone embrace motherhood” message. Sure, it’s true for some, but overall, isn’t giving women as much control over what happens to their body as possible for the best?

Yeah I got a goldilocks vibe at the beginning, like “This birth control isn't effective enough, this birth control is TOO effective :("

This is reading really privilege-y to me. There are some who have the privilege of accidental pregnancies being okay, or even welcomed. If that’s you, then don’t get an IUD. No one is making women get IUDs if they don’t want them.

Ambivalence towards birth control seems like a recipe for disaster. Unless both parties are on board for a baby should fun times result in pregnancy, it seems pretty dangerous to just assume that all will be just fine should it happen. I’m much more in favor of planned pregnancy and taking proper precautions to…

“dribbles before he shoots”
oh fucking ew.

These discussions are always so focused on ourselves. Pregnancy by definition involves multiple people (a partner in reproduction who also consents to becoming a parent, a future child). Creating a whole new human being shouldn’t be a matter of “whoops”, and there’s no reason to be nostalgic about a time when it more…

I seriously do not understand people that use the “pull out method”. That’s not a method. That’s having unprotected sex and hoping for the best.

One again proving the important point, the rape is about power, not sexual pleasure.

This site and Gawker’s boner for James Deen a while ago made me so uncomfortable. There have been stories of him crossing the line with porn stars for a while now, while everybody tried to make him happen as a mainstream actor, a feminist man, and a fantastic lover that every woman wishes she could have. Fuck that, he…

I was with you until the last bit. That is such a horrible, massive generalization that has no bit of merit to it.

I just told someone - someone I respect - about this, and she came out with a variation of the ‘he doesn’t need to rape’ thing. D:

“From what I understand, there are predatory men who stalk women in the BDSM community because it’s remarkably easy for them to abuse women there and get away with it scot free.”

Well, this’ll be extra hard for some of those “that guy can’t be a rapist, he doesn’t *need* to rape!” people to wrap their brains around.

Joanna Angel used to date him, too. What does she know?

From what I understand, there are predatory men who stalk women in the BDSM community because it’s remarkably easy for them to abuse women there and get away with it scot free. The women are never believed. I am so sorry this happened to you. It’s so unfair. I believe you and Stoya.

That’s one the reasons I’m glad Stoya spoke out about this particular incident. An individual consenting to a BDSM relationship doesn’t mean her or she has consented all possible sexual interactions.

As someone who was abused by a prominent member of the BDSM community and deleted my social media accounts because I couldn’t handle seeing him praised as a “feminist”, I’m awed by Stoya’s bravery. I hope she gets all the support she deserves.

Dude’s Twitter bio says “I bang chicks for a living.” Who believed he was a feminist??