Passive-aggression is a form of veiled hostility that should be addressed head-on. Reacting by nagging, punishing, complaining, or scolding only escalate power struggles. You become the parent your partner is rebelling against. Assertiveness is key in dealing with aggression and lack of cooperation. Arguing and…

There's more to it than that. People often blame themselves for the break-up and use it to lower their self-esteem. This can linger after normal grief passes. Also, some people fear it's their last chance at love, and the break-up can trigger shame and fear that causes withdrawal from friends. For more on…