Because every rock I throw at an asshole is another rock they can throw at me, and they have more friends and they can throw harder. If someone punches you, and you punch back, now you're in a fight, and the better fighter wins (hint: straight white people are the better fighters in the cultural and political arena.…

I meant "civility allows you to challenge your circumstances while allowing you to still act to change them." To challenge without civility is to cut off your nose to spite your face.

It doesn't make your expression less valid, it makes it less useful. If I told every homophobe to go fuck themselves in those words, I'd do nothing but create more homophobes and make myself temporarily feel better, at the expense of feeling better later when that person isn't a homophobe again. Instead, I grit my…

No, passivity is accepting your circumstances without challenge. Civility is challenging your circumstances in a way that is actually likely to help change them.

You confuse advocating for civility with advocating for passivity.

OH MY GOD YOU ARE MY NEW FAVORITE PERSON

Hey, do you know that anxiety isn't always rational? And "sounds like a bunch of excuses" reads as pretty fucking judgmental.

That's what I was thinking!

Lupita is awesome, as usual. That dress is flawless. She looks like a sexy X-Man. She should always wear Calvin Klein.

I didn't think you were accusing me. It was a good question. Sorry if I got a little heated.

I honestly don't know. I was echoing torren's language. I would assume he was referring to mainstream Western fashion, which has been designed and dictated by whites.

First of all, the "blending" is not a trivial thing. "All Asians look alike" is a deeply problematic sentiment, and an action that perpetuates it is a very big issue.

You can smell the Reddit on him.

*Applause*

So physical harm is the only kind of harm that matters? I think there's a few people (not to mention an entire body of law) that would disagree with you there.

What if I think it just looks awesome or really pretty? What if I don't give a damn about it's symbolism?

Wrong. Everything exists in context. Historically, white people have the power. They (/we, my personal ethnic identity is complicated) decide what is and isn't acceptable, and usually that meant that people dressing in ways appropriate to their culture were demeaned, harassed, and ostracized. Suddenly those things are…

My general guidelines are

Designers think of models as coat hangers with heads.

The Aaron Carter Hillary Duff thing is hysterical. My inner twelve-year-old is screaming.