I just re-read what I wrote, and pretty much nowhere do I associate myself with the aggro morons. In fact, I explicitly said to stand up and advocate for yourself, using small clear words, and that if you don’t get your spot and your time, that you should remove yourself to a better and more healthy environment.

If…

The guys I played football with never had a problem with it. 

God that’s good. Thanks for laying it out so clearly. I bet he won’t get it, but that’s really good.

I’m still gray on Jezebel! I got ungrayed on Deadspin in about six weeks, which is great, since nobody reads the grays anymore (for good reason).

Who said anything about yelling? I don’t yell. I just insist on my spot. And I don’t feel endangered by it and never have, at a local rec league. I’m not slapping a guy holding a knife or making drunken threats, here. Let’s not overdramatize. Yes, the Aggro Morons ARE the problem. The fact that women are socialized to …

Lots of people do. I’m one of them. Having dudes assume I can’t play/don’t really want to play/would prefer to sit this one out because I don’t have a cock isn’t fun. And in rec leagues, which are universally light or no-contact and casual after-work leagues for people who have other shit to do in their lives? Over the…

And while we’re waiting for that, you can practice reading comprehension. Since rec leagues are for fun, and nobody should be tackling anyone anyway (I know of zero rec sports that allow it), my point that no one gets to play 100% still stands. So everyone already does get to enjoy it the same, without any bullshit…

My sister had that same experience signing up for a kickball league in Brooklyn. She said it was the worst experience ever. I can’t tell if it’s a Brooklyn thing, a kickball thing, or a being-female thing. Maybe all three? No matter what, I’m sorry, that completely sucks. Rec leagues really can be fun, but it sounds…

If it’s really THAT important to them that they be able to GO ALL OUT BRAH 100% TURBO NO LIMITS!!!11 NO LADIES TO SLOW OUR ROLL MY DUDE!!!! they should maybe not be playing in a c0-ed league. I play flag football. I played club football all through middle and high school. I’m female. I can lay a hit like a motherfucker…

Oh god yeah. Sing it. Playing hard and winning IS fun. I love it. I like that there are leagues where I can still go and play hard and find people who also want to play hard and win and not just sit and drink beer! But if I wanted to run stadiums every morning like I did in college...never mind, I don’t want do do…

Wowza.

It’s a goddamn nightmare down there. Don’t read the bottom half of the internet!

I 100% agree with you that the dismissive, obnoxious attitude of some men when it comes to the athletic achievements and abilities of women, especially when they are treating every intramural game like it’s game 7 of the Stanley Cup Final, is the main problem. That absolutely has to change, because otherwise we wouldn’…

Female co-ed league player here, and I’m gonna maybe step on a few toes, but it has to be said: a lot of women in my experience seem to be socialized to shut up and take second/substitute place on these teams with a smile, be the ‘designated girls’ for the spots, and think “I’ll just play really hard and they’ll…

And constantly.

Sounds like you’re in the right place for you, then. I played co-ed flag football with my coworkers in Manhattan for three years, and my friend and I (both female) were starters, not subs. We won the championship two of those three years. It probably helps that she played rugby and I was on club football teams growing…

Yeah. In my experience (and observation, and the shitty things people have said around me thinking I might agree because I’m white), Deep South racism is different from Appalachian racism, which pretty much runs straight up that ridge of mountains right into PA. and doesn’t change much along the way. Then you have…

You’re a special kind of stupid, aren’t you?

If you’re flying a confederate flag, and bleating “heritage not hate,” and you’re in PA or Michigan, you deserve to have your teeth kicked in. That’s just compound interest on the original stupid racist-ass ignorance. Be mad that people think states where people are still…

I had actually read it somewhere and never bothered to confirm it. Thanks for making me check; PA once had the Grand Wizard of the KKK, and has a lot of hate group activity, but isn’t the largest. Isn’t even the largest per capita (that’s Idaho).

Good old Pennsyltucky. I live in NY and have to drive through once in a while. People wearing swastika shirts like it’s normal and cool. Highest white supremacist/hate group membership of any state in the nation. I try not to stop even to get gas until passing the NJ state line, and you KNOW it’s a big deal when a New …