We're you being Gollum just now?

Great piece!

Why can't I give this the five stars it so clearly deserves?

Carbon emissions dropped, the climate stabilized.

Yes, I think everything you say makes sense. It's not at all hard to understand your perspective. The caretaker role sucks giant boulders on so many levels. I am unbelievably lucky to have such a wonderful, giving partner. May I never, ever take him for granted!

Yup, I'm serious. I never said my judgment was fair. Without a doubt, I'm biased in the patient's favor. My own history makes it impossible for me to be impartial.

How right you are!

I hope you do too. Hey, it happened for me, long after I'd given up. In the meantime, take good care of yourself.

Been there, honey! I really hope your life improves on all fronts. You know, it might. Mine did. OK, maybe not my health, but other stuff, including a wonderful, loving, giving husband, LONG after I'd given up.

Well, yeah. He definitely had his share of dickishness. But, you know, he's just a guy. Certainly no prince, but no supervillain either. Though I was both devastated and furious at the time, I later came to see his behavior as pitiful. It must really suck to be faced with a major test of character and then fail it so…

What a kind thing to say! Thank you.

Agreed.

Oh, honey, been there! I know exactly what you mean. I hope things look up for you!

You're right, we're only speculating that he might be hurt by his wife's behavior. We don't actually know how he feels. We've only heard her side of the story. What she has to say about her husband's feelings does seem ambivalent to me. At any rate, it doesn't lessen my suspicions. But either way, I'm not judging him…

Holy. Shit. Are we clones?

I agree. And I hope your health improves!

Maybe stop saying your child is brilliant. Even if she is. Even to yourself. (OK, once in a while, when you are just blown away by her, maybe close youself in a closet and whisper, very gently, "Damn, that girl is brilliant.")

I agree.

I'm sick. But I would be heartbroken if my husband had sex with other women. I wish I weren't made that way, but I am. I'm really thankful to be married to a wonderful, amazing person who respects my needs.

So, this pathetic excuse for a person commits a felony, and he thinks it's JADA who's been "exposed?" As what, a kid who went to a party?