"Do better, Ms. Monae?"

I feel it too, and I think you put it pretty well. There's a sense that WOMEN should be outraged by the Ray Rice debacle, and WOMEN should let the NFL know how badly it fucked up, and WOMEN need to work harder to stop domestic violence. Which women absolutely should, but EVERYONE should. I want to see more of these…

I think actually you put your finger on it: it's a 'women's problem'. It's really not. It's a problem that women can get angry about and help each other through, but it's not a problem we can solve. Men have to solve it.

Something about this is rubbing me the wrong way and I can't put my finger on it. I have had it up to effing here with the NFL, but this feels off to me too. It feels like they're directing it still towards women and a company that markets to women with an almost exclusively female product. Why isn't anyone fucking…

I will say this: I read Jenny Sanford's book about her life with Mark, and in a book meant to highlight how good she is, she comes off as a rather entitled, self involved White Christian Princess, Woe is me. She's the type that swallow the nasty lies about poor women and children in her state, all in the name of…

The ex-wife needs to move on with her life. I am not sure how she thinks preventing her children from seeing their dad is good for them.

Now hang on a sec. If Chris Brown is publicly acknowledging a need to manage anger and get therapy if one cannot do so, that is NOT something we should be shrugging off. Look, men (especially younger men in high-profile, high-masculine-stereotyping professions like sports and/or the music biz) NEED messages from their…

You can exercise while pregnant, if your doctor says all is well. Pregnancy isn't an illness. It is a state of health.

You are missing my point: the OKCupid data is just reflective of the black women that responded to white men there. That sample is not representative of all black women as they have been much slower to adopt online dating than whites. To extrapolate from that minute, less representative sample to all black women is…

Unlike you, I don't care what people do sexually and I don't get my validation from outside myself. I would not flip my shit. I don't care. I have, thankfully, never cared and I am not going to start.

Don't care what you call it. If there is one place where I support everyone's right to discriminate, it is who they let near their pussy or their dick. I have never been sexually attracted to a white person. I am not going to force myself to.

From HuffPo's article (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/12/nic…)

Okay, that makes more sense, though I think wording this in a neutral way would have been more appropriate.

This research is not at all representative of black women.

I don't care any nonsense rules whites want to set up. Rue the day that I cosign and enforce some racist BS rule.

What research? It was on this very site I read that black women were the only group that did not prefer white men. It was research done on internet dating habits and I remember hearing it on NPR as well. I don't know one black woman that wants to date a white man. Not one. I am not saying they don't exist, but I think…

I completely agree with your assessment of how he picked his victims and I think he committed hate crimes. Like, how can there be people in the world evil enough to make rape /worse/?? I can't know what it's like, being a black woman sexually assaulted by a white cop. But it's somehow worse in a lot of different ways.…

Brittney Cooper said it best "Black women are the most hyper-visible yet invisible people." Everyone thinks they know us, but nobody really cares about our internal lives.

The sad thing is Black women are good enough to be anything that isn't a stereotype to people no matter how much we work to dispel those assumptions of us. We work hard to live our lives and find ourselves backed against a wall when shit happens to us. We can neither run nor hide from stuff because we have people…

Really well-written piece. It's infuriating and I hope this pig Holtzclaw is persecuted to the fullest extent of the law.