Hm. I re read her post and I'm not sure I agree with your reading. I assumed she meant to put "exotic" in quotation marks the way she did "yellow fever." I.e., using words used by others to make a point, while making clear that she doesn't approve of the sentiment expressed. She later touches on exoticism in a way…

I think you may have a point. I think that's what provoked me to edit my original post to say that my black did was equally or more hands own with his black children. Thanks.

I really appreciated your response. I am genuinely touched by all the empathetic non-black responses here. (I also obviously appreciate the black responses, they are just less unexpected).

Courting brown votes are we?

The term "turning away" implies, in my mind, that there was a previous history of those other men being with black women.

The question should really be "why are so many men turning away from black woman" — regardless of race. Of course there is the expectation that people should like or at least not be prejudiced against "their own," but I don't think one can let everyone else off the hook. Particularly since, as you pointed out,…

You get it 100%. It's really heartening. Thank you for writing from your perspective.

The answer to your question is yes. That's exactly the issue.

I also want to add that I think part of my reaction has to do with the knowledge that black kids are less loved in America. (See e.g. Trayvon). Our children are seen as criminals and as overly mature (girls sexualized, 13 year old boys tried as adults), and not worthy of love and support. So to see so much love…

That's fascinating. I think it's hard for all of us not to internalize negative feelings about our race given how much negativity there is about us out in the world. (Those Harvard Implicit Aptitude Tests show that even black people have preferences for whites). https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/

Thanks to all of you. When I came back to this page after 10 min and saw 19 notifications I was prepared for a shit storm. This was a pleasant surprise.

No one should send this guy hate-filled racist comments. No one. He is doing a great thing here and that picture is sweet as pie.

I hear what you're saying, but some of these comments ultimately amount to: "Sure I watch that one super main stream black show, but OMG I would NEVER watch any of these other black shows! Scandal is the exception to the rule! How absurd of Netflix to suggest otherwise!"

Here is another fascinating black character from "European" history whom I came across today. Obviously, not from England. But it's a good example of the kinds of stories that are out there if you scratch the surface: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abram_Gan…

Once you hear their arrangement of "Love on Top" you can't go back.

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For what it's worth, I had concerns about this movie, but I respectfully disagree with everything about pyramids of shrimp's review. I thought the movie asked the viewer to ask the question who is to blame for the protagonist's loneliness through the character of the ex-wife (who basically calls him out on turning to…

Ok. That's on you.

It's actually quite different. As it turns out, the computer actually has alot to offer.

What is interesting is that the movie is actually as much about "her" transformation than his.