This was a common practice for wealthy people up until the modern period.  Marie Antoinette didn’t even like her own daughter until her daughter recognized Marie as her mother at a gathering.

Absolutely. The groups\clubs I was involved with always did the same. If anyone was observed or was reported to be not following the rules, it was one warning (just in case it was some misunderstanding vs. deliberate violation). No second warning - the violator was escorted out. 

I don’t know about in the us but in the uk the case law is that you can’t consent to serious bodily harm anyway.

Exactly.  When he said “breakfast potluck”, he clearly meant brunch.  And when they said it wasn’t a breakfast potluck, he was just totally flummoxed.  “Wait, so not brunch?  Then I have no idea.”

That’s hilarious, because this was the basic southern queso recipe per a black woman in OK.

Ro-Tel mixed with Velveeta is the Whitest mierda since mayonnaise was invented.

Maybe I’m overanalysing this (what else is new?), but if I’m invited to a cookout, and it’s referred to as a cookout, then, even putting aside the forum in which this question was asked, chances are that the people hosting this will be Black. As such, I may very well be an interloper, albeit an invited one. Therefore,…

Man just bring aluminum foil and napkins, everybody knows you can’t cook.

They occur among people who have to get up and be somewhere really early and want to make the best of it.

He’s young and just doesn’t know.

Have you ever had anyone order pizza to a potluck? I had an old boss who would do that. Nice guy and he couldn’t cook so it kind of made sense, but it was still funny.

All of this.  If you can’t cook, get yourself to where booze is sold.  Show up with extra mixers and ice and no one will question your contribution. 

a breakfast potluck? Are breakfast potlucks a thing that I’ve live my whole life not knowing about? Who does breakfast potlucks?  I’ll bring a coffee cake or donuts to someone’s house but I don’t come with a side of bacon or a big bowl of eggs.  If you invite me to your house at breakfast time I have a big expectation…

Yes, there is breakfast potluck, and the very BEST of it is the breakfast casserole, which is sort of a bacon-egg-cheese-sausage-ham etc. bread pudding. It comes in many forms and is invariably delicious; it makes meeting humans at 6:00 am bearable. Like breakfast instead of brunch, I believe that it is entirely the…

Chips and salsa tells me that you’re not willing to cook OR take responsibility for meat to grill. If you’re bringing chips and salsa, it better be homemade or come with some guac. Step up your potluck game, Pete.

Exactly. Offer to bring cups. To-go containers. Plates. Ice. Mixers. Or even better, bring the alcohol. Some brown liquor. Flavored moonshine. The beer the uncles like. Why is it always Heineken?

I. Can’t. Stop. Laughing.

A breakfast potluck is obviously brunch, our most holy of meals of the week. But if he’s not bringing Prosecco, a cheese plate or some fruit then he’s not welcome at my brunches either.

Now I’m definitely not Team Pete, but I’m with him on this. If you go head-to-head with the best (and most correct) cookout dishes you will lose. The only winning move is not to play.

I have heard Pete stand in a room of predominately white people and explain the type of danger Trump and his politics present to a system that is already flawed and racist. His Douglass plan demonstrates his strong understanding of systemic racism and the economic opportunities that are necessary within OUR community…