I agree, but I feel the same way about the oversharing of happy father’s day posts. The deluge of “he’s the most loving and the most supportive and the most generous and I luurve him” was a bit too much for some of us with a more complicated relationship with our dads.

I’m sure it does, in many cases, but I really hate this narrative of “If someone does something awful to you, that obviously proves you are an awful person who brought it on yourself!” It can absolutely be true, but it’s just as true that sometimes people are horrible to other people for no good reason.

My favorite has to be this one:

And the waiting, the “surely he’s not just vanishing, he’ll reply at some point” etc. That’s sadistic. Even the coldest “it’s over” is less cruel.

Oh my God I haaaaate the “I’ll just make you break up with me” passive-aggressive bullshit.

It is not always inexcusable. People who have the ability to leave an abusive relationship this way SHOULD do so. Confronting an abuser is dangerous and breaking it off is one of the most dangerous times for a person. So while it’s not ideal in most cases, it is not inexcusable in all of them either.

Nope, having done both types, ghosting is worse. It tears at your self-esteem and soul. At least with a scream, you get stuff off your chest. Ghosting is easier for the person who does it but it’s cruel. Cruel.

Better for you, you mean. It’s extra horrible for the other person. Plus, ghosting or nasty, drawn out breakups aren’t the only two choices. Breaking up doesn’t have to mean horrible screaming matches, especially if you don’t let it devolve in to one. It doesn’t even have to be a particularly long conversation or…

I was ghosted after a 5 year relationship. Five. No infidelity between us. One big blowup every 2 or 3 months. But I genuinely believed we were happy. We traveled together. Cooked together. Read together. Did the NYT crossword together. I have never been so happy with another person in my entire life. I bought a house…

I would much rather be told in no uncertain terms “I don’t think we should see each other anymore” than have to figure out why the person isn't returning my texts or calls. Avoiding confrontation on your part doesn't make it any less painful for the other person when they finally figure out they're never going to hear…

The Us Weekly piece claims to be quoting “a source close to Penn.”

Actually, telling people why you’re removing them from your life is always kinder. Face those emotions, and tell them why you’re leaving, as adults. Then you’ll give those people, with whom you’ve probably shared hopes and dreams, closure. Ghosting is just horrific and a dangerously emotionally paralysing.

Better for whom? It’s not like the emotional fallout doesn’t happen, it’s just that you don’t have to witness it. Generally speaking, if you’re making a choice that leads to another person absorbing a greater share of misery in order that you might be able to absorb a lesser share, it’s not an ethical choice.

take responsibility for your emotions and the affect you have on people - good or negative. if you enter into a relationship with someone you need to act like a responsible human being, no matter how much it makes you uncomfortable. it is deeply disrespectful to ghost someone just because you don’t want to “deal” with…

Sometimes it only speaks volumes about the way the person who ghosts you handles communicating with others. Sometimes you’re just misfortunate. I am not arguing for Sean based on his past, but I hate the argument that people generally deserve mistreatment. I don’t think it’s true and I was ghosted once by someone the…

I’m honestly wondering if this was really “ghosting” or more just “leaving an abusive relationship.”

Because like Woody Allen or Roman Polanski, he has plenty of people who shield him and his misdoings in the name of “art” at the expense of others.

I was ghosted once by someone I was totally in love with - it was incredibly cruel and cowardly and it took years(!) to get over. So, if it had to happen to someone else, I'm glad it was Sean Penn...

He is an angry, drunk, abusive piece of shit who put Madonna in the hospital after beating her over the head with a baseball bat.

I have a dear friend who was ghosted. It was one of the cruelest things I’ve ever seen and it took so much longer to recover that I think it would have from a “regular” breakup.