What's your point: that because this woman was an inveterate monster, anything less than perfect parenting is equivalent to that?

If my parents weren't dead, I'd hug the shit out of them right now. Yes, we had our stupid first world problems, but this is the kind of perspective folks in my shoes need once in a while. I'm heartbroken for these kids (and the adults they became). Also, I was in foster care for about six months to a year before I…

We don't have any evidence that she dwells on this or that it incapacitates her. All we have is an obit and an article explaining why she wrote the obit. It's her truth, and saying it out loud is probably very cathartic for her.

Are you kidding me? I don't even know where to start with you. First of all, she wrote an obituary, which needed to be written in the present. Also, if you think all of this crap doesn't affect someone's present then you certainly have not had to deal with any of this, or, you're in complete denial.

I remember the look on all my fathers relatives faces when I went to my grandfathers funeral. Everyone there was terrified I was going to tell the truth about him.

glad im not alone. but I'm a man, and sadly too many women have said "that they can't be with a man who doesn't love his mother".

As someone who has lived through a somewhat similar experience, I read this and instantly felt empowered and thankful that other girls who had a hellish life because of their narcissistic, abusive mothers are growing into strong, outspoken women. I think speaking out shamelessly is the only way to heal and break the…

It's amazing the looks you get when you tell people that you don't associate with your family anymore. That you wish you could go the rest of your life with them absent from your mind. People always assume that it's you and not them, no matter how "well-adjusted" you turn out. It has absolutely wrecked dating for me.

within a year my baby brother (18 months old) was beat to death in his foster home

One thing,

And you know what? Fuck anyone who tells you that you should feel differently.

I don't plan to make all that much effort restraining myself.

I want to time travel and hug the children you were, and I want to regular travel and shake the hand of the adult you have become.

People who have regular parents...even flawed but slightly normal parents just do not get it and they never will. God bless them. They cant fathom a world where the person who is supposed to be your safe place to fall...the person who is supposed to make everything better...is actually the person you have to protect…

I am so sorry that you had to endure that horrible abuse. You are more than justified in hoping for her death, especially since you still could be hurt by her. Take care of yourself and stay safe.

I don't blame her for writing the obit as she did.

I think she deserves the last word.

My mother ruined my credit, stole my identity, purchased cars, lit a fire for insurance fraud and blamed it on me, abused me sexually, physically and incredibly emotionally, and killed two of my cats, one in front of me.

The funeral, as they say, is for the living. So I would argue, do whatever you have to to get the taint of the dead off you.

One of the few times one hopes for a cartoonish burning hell to bake someone in.