hey, i'm an asian-american girl and i totally see where you're coming from! i grew up in hong kong, though, so i have a slightly different perspective on things. i didn't even realize how much asian men were emasculated in western media/society until i came to the U.S. for college.

I think you forgot something: Why would she date someone average AND NON-WHITE. Fixed it!

I was semi-dating a guy of Asian descent for a while (I'm white) and I was really shocked by how fucking racist some of my friends were when they found out. My guy friends in particular kept asking me if I thought his tiny dick was going to be enough. WHAT THE FUCK.

What a biting goal.

I am very interested in the rest of this story, mainly because I'm 40 and I want to know how much longer I have to wait before giving frat bros a boot to the head myself.

I'm so confused. It looks like they got off on the right foot, but then a fight started.

It's because they count the dick size of unborn children there.

Nah, they're all played by white dudes too.

Or, even worse, worship NO god(s). And don't get conservatives going on those people who are having sex differently than conservatives like.

It's actually terrifying how that handful of sentences reads just like an abusive relationship.

Our moment has come, white people!

What if I tell you that SOME Asian American women should take PARTIAL responsibility for this, and *gasp*, I'm an Asian American male? Now, let me be clear: responsibility is a two-way street. If we, Asian American men, are not taking the initiative to ask women out on dates, that is our fault and something we need to…

So from what I've seen in this thread,

they don't - the unfortunate reality is its still a white guy's world - most women of different ethnic backgrounds find white men attractive, the rest of us are not even on the radar. it sucks, but that's life

I think that a lot of the people who think that Asian women need to "take responsiblity" are not trailer park white people, but Asian American men who are frustrated with hearing Asian women complain about white men with Asian fetishes and yet seeing so many Asian women with white men.

White men are only able to capitalize on their privilege if Asian women allow it. Essentially, white men have "white vouchers" which are only valuable if Asian women "punch" them.

This conversation began when the original poster said that "White men and Asian women fetishize each other and we need to accept that Asian women play a role in how they are viewed." (My paraphrasing). You were responding to the original poster, though I am unsure which exact message you were replying to.

I think that Asian women are a little less valued, and therefore a little less privileged than white women. But, you're right, of all the people of color, Asian women have the most privilege. Still less than white women.

You misinterpreted the OKcupid article.

Didn't you just sum up the Kardashians? I don't think this problem is unique to Japan or Asia.