I was more pissed at their stupid idea in the first place. Newborns are SO FREAKING BORING during the first month. You’re stressed at trying to keep them alive and freaking exhausted more than you’ve ever been in your whole freaking life. And then you want to take away the only outlet you may have to not go completely…
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I don’t think the issue is so much the cheating, but the apparent emotional abuse and manipulation. Like, if she disclosed instead that he physically abused her, I seriously doubt anyone would be having an issue with her saying, yeah he might not be such a great feminist after all. Sure, all people are imperfect, but…
Truly unbelievable how many people are missing the point! He used his supposed feminism to gaslight and emotionally manipulate her - THAT is what disqualifies him as a feminist, not the cheating as such (though that one is also shitty, naturally).
It’s not about the cheating, it’s about him using feminism to gaslight her into mistrusting her own intuitive feeling that her husband’s constant contact with beautiful women was maybe not as “feminist” as he claimed. Did you even read the full article? He lied to her for 15 years and wrote some pretty fucked up,…
“It’s really not ok for anyone else to define those women’s experiences with him other than those women.”
I was wondering if Jez would cover this at all. I read it pretty much right after it went up on the Wrap, and all I could think was “what in the fuck did he do to her?” after I’d finished. No one gets a clinical diagnosis of Complex PTSD without seeing some seriously fucked-up shit. Like...something went on here…
It’s totally possible to be both (I was, a long time ago) but it’s impossible to be a womanizer and a feminist, which is really the grosser accusation here.
You really think she wouldn’t have gotten as much snark for speaking about the infidelity DURING the divorce? C’mon. It would have been a cavalcade of “Bitter ex just saying things bc she’s mad! Bad on many sides!”
Why are you apologizing? (S)he demeaned the wife by saying writing her thoughts in public is equivalent to being a 14 yr old. You pointed out the ridiculousness of putting the onus on the cheated on person for keeping their mouth shut, which is at least tangentially the same thing as calling a grown ass woman 14 for…
But can you be a feminist and a womanizing cheater?
Eh, do you really think she should just slink off into the night?
Well, admittedly, Rose Art crayons really are the worst
The thing here that made me particularly sad was that it sounds as if the son, despite the repeated digs at him and his beliefs, still was the one apologizing and trying to make things work.
God, so true. Most of my facebook friends are like, my actual friends (or at least were at one point) and are generally pretty restrained but luckily the people who post absurd drama on facebook are the same people who don’t know/don’t care about privacy settings. Every once in a while a friend of a friend goes off…
Presumably, part of the reason she’s doing it (and the reason anybody who reveal that their partner cheated on them) is as part of an attempt to publicly shame them. You humiliated and hurt me to such a degree that I now feel compelled to do the same to you in the most effective means at my disposal.
He looks like the hippie you’re not supposed to follow to a second location.
Yes! Jeffree’s liquid lips were my absolute favorite, but I stopped wearing and buying them and switched to Beauty Bakerie after learning of his racism. I love that Beauty Bakerie’s are also cruelty-free and vegan and they’re a black-owned beauty company. Mon Cherie is an unstoppable blue-red that lasts all damn day.
Complaints about racism are making you a racist. Sure. OK.
I can’t help compare and contrast this with Ferguson. Ferguson happened after a murderer walked free, the town erupted, and the response was militarized and brutal.