I think I hate the harassers more. Theoretically, a few of the Facebook live people might have scrolled past inattentively or assumed it was some kind of staged thing (I don’t know how Facebook live works). The people who are harassing her now KNOW FOR SURE that she was gang raped and they are harassing her BECAUSE…

Except that was debunked and many calls were made to police.

I think that might be because a lot of people think of coming to terms with one’s own sexuality as something one does alone, and telling your parents and family is one of the last steps. But I think having that family support is even more important. I hope someday the internet is full of articles about this!

I would love the chance to feud with Susan Sarandon, to throw a drink in her face and tell her to sit her privileged ass down and stop telling me that it’s great that I’m now so “energized.” Our feud would most definitely start with me saying, “Fuck you, Susan Sarandon,” and it would just all go downhill from there.

Thanks, that helps. We’ve talked to her about choosing people that are in her “safe circle” if she decides she wants to tell people about how she feels.

My mom claims that after a certain age the good guys are the ones who have been divorced. She said that good guys who had been divorced and learned from it were your best bet. I don’t know if that’s as true now as it was when she met my dad 35 years ago but it makes sense to me.

That was weird. I also found it strange that the author tries to justify (at least a little bit) posting the invasive photograph in 2012 by saying that we as a culture didn’t wake up to how horrible stuff like this was until 2014. Ummmm, what? No, I’m pretty sure most of us knew well before then that it’s not OK to…

She always seems super nice and her advocacy for LGBT+ and women’s rights is pretty damn awesome. I still don’t understand where the hate came from.

It’s also about building a bench, people are going to work and volunteer on her campaign that wouldn’t do it for other candidates. This teaches them how to run a campaign, how to talk to voters, fund-raise. It’s puts new people in the room. People who might run for city, county, and state gov’t.

I used to nanny for a wealthy family, and was once sent with their then-13 year old (she was a women’s 0 or 2) to get a bunch of different colored cords that she could wear to private school through the winter. We marched into J. Crew, all “To the cords please, madam!” And we were told there weren’t cords. There…

100% agree at least on shoes. The shoes are insanely expensive for what they are. If I have $250+ to spend on shoes I can go to any number of much higher quality designers; I ain’t gonna spend it at J.Crew that’s for sure.

I never shop at J.Crew anymore because of the quality issues. Stuff I bought in the early aughts is still wearable but the last sweater I bought there was a goner a year later.

Good. I dislike cults of personality. All J Crew has been turning out are things she’d like to wear. Which is always unsustainable in the long run. Also, bring back quality folks. I expect something from H&M or Target not to last. But especially at JCrew prices I expect pieces to last.

Well, she almost certainly knew and lied about her age early in her career. As many actors do.

I’m in the gray so no one may see this, and it doesn’t really relate, but I’m looking for advice and figured I might as well ask my fellow Jezzies.

One of the most exhausting and frustrating things in the whole entire world is a privileged white person with oppressive political views getting bent out of shape because someone reasonably makes the logical connection from those political views to personal beliefs and calls her out on it.

In my experience, your mom is correct—I first met my now-husband almost 15 years ago in paramedic school. I thought he was cute but he wasn’t my “type,” and he felt the same way. Fast-forward 10 years, I’ve been engaged and split with my ex, and he’s been married and divorced. We’re very different people now than we…

For real, I have no idea why it took me so long to learn that lesson. Early on in this relationship I would be super passive aggressive and I would wait for him to notice something that needed to be done. As a result, the house would get a little messy and I was resentful and angry half of the time.

It’s like the story of the woman who sued McDonald’s for their scalding coffee. People made jokes and it was used to justify tort reform laws that have had terrible consequences. But in reality, the burns that woman suffered were extremely severe and definitely warranted a lawsuit and a very large payout to her.

Tangent:There’s a documentary on Netflix about Kitty Genoves murder called the witness. It’s about how the NY Times lied when reporting that nobody said or did anything. Several people reported Kitty Genovese getting assaulted to police. Most folks thought it was an argument between a couple not a murder. The police…