Um. So....what did you do? Did you at least pay back in kind by faking it?

Ditto. Mine was super selfish and clueless too.

That was my reaction too!!!!

Fair enough. I just...I don't know. I didn't know what else to call it??? Maybe I should have said, "So that's it for you?" Or maybe that's worse.

Well...my ex and I were just having a conversation about certain things. I noticed that throughout the time we'd been together, I was getting shot down for anything that wasn't outside of certain parameters — place, time of day, etc. We were talking about it once, and he wasn't offering up any suggestions — just…

Yeah I didn't understand what his point was. So because you align yourself with a former slave who became really successful that means you can never be called a racist?

QUESTION FOR Y'ALL:

My gut reaction is that it was a liberal troll. (I'm a bleeding heart too, but sending in people to the other side to troll and race bait is uncalled for.)

Wait...you know what this sounds like?

I know someone who used to say, "I just ate a bunch of pumpkin seeds, okay? I'm dealing with it!"

When my friend Wendy was pregnant, people would come up and touch her belly. She responded by doing the same to them. And once she got a, "Hey what are you doing?" before it clicked.

I would have acted like I had no idea what he was talking about. Then I would have said, "I'm not pregnant because I HAVE A METABOLISM PROBLEM!" Then I would have fake cried.

Bingo. One of the ways to do that is to NOT do all the work when you're dating. I had a friend who did everything for her husband short of wiping his ass because she loooooooved him so much. From day one, she cooked, cleaned, and laundered items that were not even hers!

Because it's a subtle way to control a woman's body. Being pregnant is so obvious, right? You can't hide it. So concern trolls can easily disguise their "help" with what's "best for the baby." I'm only doing it because I caaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaare.

Because different choices represent the path not taken. And if you're already guilt-ridden and insecure about your original choice, alternatives are just going to make you lash out.

I really don't think evidence matters in this case. The extremists will (ironically) never trust women to make decisions for themselves. And seriously...? I'm getting really tired of the idea that feeding your kid formula is the same thing as feeding him gasoline.

Whereas I saw it has him having the attention of a 2 year old. He wanted something he could have. It's fine to pine and yearn and sigh longingly at the horizon. But if he finally got it, real life would have set in — bills, kids (maybe?), work, life, money, family, etc. Then they'd be just like everyone else. …

I know someone else is going to say it but...this is the time on Sprockets when we dance!

I'd add to that: the overscheduling parent.

I guess I should elaborate. As far as I knew, everything was fine with us. He acted the normal part of a happy "fiance." He literally just woke up one Saturday and said, "I can't do this. I don't love you. I never wanted to get married. I'm not even sure I want to be with you." Then he was mad that I was mad.