I can honestly say, if my mom had felt the need to abort me, I would understand and be OK with it. I know anti-choice activists like to snakily ask that “Well what if your mom had an abortion?” and my thought it, if she’d needed to, and did, fine, because I love her and would have wanted her to do what was best for…

Just look up the photograph of Gerri Santoro and read her story. That is what they want to bring us back to. If I had it all to do over again, I’d go to med school, become a gynecological surgeon, and perform abortions. In my next life, maybe. This is a service that women NEED.

When Roe vs Wade led to the legalization of abortion, I remember my mom - a relatively apolitical woman - practically weeping with joy. She’d had me very young, and I’m sure she toyed with the idea of abortion - but it was illegal and dangerous. How dangerous? As a high school student, she’d driven a girlfriend across…

I don’t know, but it’s so very very weird. And does not seem like it can possibly be a good idea.

KILL IT

I’d even back up over him to do it again.

I thought that sandwich was pie and wanted it. Then I read the caption and wanted it to die.

How long has waist training been a thing? I’ve started seeing multiple women wearing them at my not at all trendy gym. They look way more uncomfortable that more full corsets I associate with steampunk or ren faire folks. I can barely make it through Zumba with all the oxygen.

The Internet can really fuck up a person’s real life, though. It's not an impotent force.

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You don’t get that otherwise wonderful guys virtually always have these kinds of shortcomings as a result of being raised in a sexist culture?

Oh, yes. Most guys do. It’s the blind spot that’s infuriating.

My loving, sweet, chore division husband has no idea. NO IDEA. How much space he takes up in our apartment and our marriage.

I think this is real. We use a chore wheel in our house — mom, dad, and kid have chores. We roll the wheel each week so that each person has their block of chores to complete. This way, my son learns *all* of the chores, and he sees his dad doing *all* of the chores.

Even then, women are still responsible for being in charge of noticing when things need to get done, delegating the tasks, and making sure they’re done correctly. In the professional world, we call that “management,” and it’s regarded as very real work—and compensated accordingly.

Your insight and experience in this is appreciated. Truly. I was curious what FtM experience might be in this — and I’ve read a couple of articles to this issue and others related. And I always appreciate hearing it.

Actually, the data doesn’t support the idea that men do as much physical caretaking as women do:
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/12/ups…

There are also repercussions if you refuse to take on that work.

Articles like this reaffirm my choice of spinsterhood. What’s the point of a partnership if I’m still doing most, if not all, of the work. I have outlets (and toys) for sex. Honestly the only downside is when I’m sick.

No one is white-knighting and you’re clearly trolling, but unless your bones are made out of balsa wood and egg shells, you can handle it. Flip positions: when you’re railing away on top of a 120 lb woman, her pelvic bones aren’t disintegrating into stardust.