Yeah, there’s this assumption that sex is natural, and anything natural can’t possibly hurt (though nature doesn’t care if sex hurts or not as long as we pop out babies and take care of them - lots of other species have traumatic sex). So if it hurts we’re have the wrong attitude (Victorian!) or something.

A couple of good books on sexual pain came out in 2011. I would do some reading before seeing a specialist to make sure you know what questions to ask, and what information to have ready. A lot of gynos are fairly uninformed about this stuff, too.

I’ve seen commenters saying there may be a link with anemia. Certainly in my case, cramps got a lot better when I started eating more red meat. It probably varies from person to person, but a lot of women have anemia, so I’d like to see more on that.

This is something that needs to be talked about a lot more. I’m still struggling with dyspareunia at age 51, unable to be in a relationship because of it. (Yes, PiV matters to a lot of people. It’s one thing not to want it. It’s another thing entirely not to be able to do it.) I’ve used dilators successfully (muscles…

I can remember being told to learn how to relax to relieve menstrual cramps. And I still get told to relax with vestibular pain (dyspareunia). It’s reflex: you have sex pain, they tell you you need to learn how to relax. I’LL RELAX WHEN YOU’VE FIXED THE PROBLEM, THANKS!!! (Though I can see attitudes towards sex…

I don’t think you can program that specifically, not once you have AI that knows how to learn autonomously, which we have now. AI will never be the same as human intelligence, but it won’t automatically be different either. Consciousness, feelings, desire for freedom may all arise spontaneously out of having a working…

I think the point of this is how intelligent the AI is. But feel free to disagree with me.

1. You can’t buy happiness. But you sure can make a lot of money off of people who try.

Well, I’m not an anemone, or a sea anemone, but my first name is Anemone. Is that close enough?

Ideally, everyone would get it. It would change the dynamics of a lot of relationships in a good way, though there is always the risk of economic abuse (an abuser controlling a more vulnerable person’s money).

Nothing. I was just wondering, because the OP said “People somehow need to know.” and I don’t feel that way at all. I’m puzzled by it.

So, I don’t need to know others’ identities, and I use my real name on the internet. Is there a connection?

He could be evil, or just very dysfunctional. Either way I do think there are bosses (and landlords!) who are black holes of energy, feeding off other people. They may be unable to keep good workers because of how bad they treat them, but are able to sucker inexperienced and vulnerable workers in and then use them up.…

I stopped wearing shoes when I found it was mostly legal because shoes have been torture for me most of my life (when I got to big for little kid shoes, basically). I’m on disability so it doesn’t affect my employability, but other barefooters have jobs. Some are self-employed, one I know of is a minister, and one a…

I’ve gone low carb several times now, and this time is the hardest. I get a sore throat when I’m very low carb, due to not enough fluids or something. (That was never an issue the earlier times. I’m getting old.) Each time, it was to eliminate food that disagreed with me (e.g. I’m low oxalate now). This time I make a…

I often wear shoes in my dreams even though I’ve been barefoot full time since 2009. It really bugs me. (Though I haven’t noticed it lately.)

This morning I had a dream that I had a really intense date with Sauron. He gets more attractive as you get to know him better (he was very attractive/seductive after the events of the Silmarillion, when he got trounced by Luthien in, like, two paragraphs or so, heh heh). In his next life he’s going to really love…

Ok, first of all I had to google to see that video because the one you embedded isn’t viewable in my country. :(

So is he recommending free grad school for all women?

Or write/cast someone just like your Black friend, who then goes “hey!”