I was worried I got it wrong, so having someone else saying the same thing is reassuring.

That’s amazing! You should submit your findings for publication. Sorry I can’t suggest a journal, but I’m sure you’ll find the right one fairly easily, given your expertise.

First of all, we’re probably in different countries. (I’m in Canada.) Second of all, porn causes problems in a lot of situations, not just in rare situations where someone does something obviously evil and gets caught. “Consumed by the majority without issue” is probably referring to how it doesn’t bother the people…

I think it might be possible to provide several different models of what a healthy relationship can look like, and what satisfying sex can look like, for both sexes, so that kids are aware of the possibilities, and then can figure out for themselves what works for them.

No! I’m so embarrassed. My sister had one of the books many decades ago, but reading that is as far as I ever got into D&D.

Oh, yeah, she sang, too. (I guess I didn’t think it was relevant to the question? Also, I’m not that familiar with her singing other than those hits from the films. Thanks for the correction.)

She used to do raunchy comedy in gay bathhouses before she went big. I think she’s always been a comedian, but had that overshadowed with some of the drama she’s done (The Rose, Beaches) from time to time. But still primarily a comedian (e.g. The First Wives Club, The Stepford Wives).

I honestly don’t know how good sex education is these days - I had sex ed back in the ‘70s. But I bet most wealthy countries are miles ahead of the US in terms of sex ed, and yet porn still causes problems. Also, I’m not sure if teenagers are able to understand “good sex”. If someone had explained to me what I needed…

Most of it does. I’d be ok with porn made for fun (no money involved) by freely consenting adults with no power imbalances.

Other species rape. Do they have porn? Do they have any kind of art? Rape predates porn.

I’m not in the US. It’s not just the US. It’s not just places where kids don’t get sex education.

How well do you know him? Why not just get to know him and see if he’s a nice guy or not? Without requiring any real committment from him just in case.

People who research media violence have reached consensus. People who do not research media violence have not reached consensus. The experts have reached consensus. The non-experts are reluctant to trust their peers who have the same degree of training plus years of experience in this particular area, because they are…

My reply to someone else.

Rape, incest and murder aren’t going anywhere either. We will never be able to extinguish them completely. We still ban them.

The study in the article you linked to didn’t really disagree with me either. They found a weak positive correlation between aggressive video games and degrees of conduct disorder, and admitted their study was underpowered.

I worry about the effects on their fathers, too. You asked above what the alternative is, and I’m more in favour of both manuals like The Joy of Sex and a book on sensual massage I saw recently (line drawings, not photos), and discussions on relationships, which often matter a lot to girls and women. Also this:

They are not relaxants for everyone. And researchers have found they arouse people, which is not the same thing as relaxing them. So maybe you find them relaxing, and maybe you find they’re fine in moderation. But I’ll stick to the research I’ve read over the years, thanks. I’ve posted the correlation between piracy…

One of the reasons violent crime is down is because the population is getting older. Another probable reason is phasing out leaded gasoline a generation earlier (the lag in effect is about 23 years). Some studies actually do measure aggressive behaviour in subjects. My understanding is that, not including video game…

Porn is not actually necessary, unlike lawsuits, which can do a lot of good. Religion can do a lot of good, too. Neither of those are valid comparisons. Alcohol is generally banned from workplaces and from roads, because it has no place there, but it’s a relaxant that has its uses in moderation. It makes more sense to…