He’s ok to look at, but he’s no Jason Momoa. Plus is it just sexy-looking? Because he’s got a v.unsexy voice. While yer man Momoa...

Oh my god, been there, done that. Life is so much better without that, trust me. I may be financially poorer now, but orders of magnitude happier. The mood swings - I used to be filled with apprehension, actually dread’s not even too strong a word, on my way home from work, because you just never knew what would be…

Same!

I spent years thinking of exit strategies. My ex would never waste an opportunity to belittle me. Also he was mentally ill and refused to deal with it. When in a dark space he was nasty and vicious. My friends (one of whom is a social worker who worked with women from abusive relationships) worried about me. My…

Oh no no, you can have the kind of relationship where you can live your own life, and have all the alone time you need AND have love. I have finally found it, and it is The Way. My chap and I both like to have our own time, and honestly it makes when we are together that much better, because it’s NOT all the fucking…

I think I must just have the trust gene, in spite of myself. I trusted my ex (of 30 years) implicitly. Always. He cheated on me with a much younger woman, and it was devastating. But we’re divorced now, and I’m over him, and I’ve been happily seeing someone else for the past two years and... I trust my chap entirely.…

See, I know that would be me. I’m just not in that mind-set anymore. I wouldn’t have had the patience for it. My boyfriend would have liked one, but we met just too late for that. He’ll just have to share my already grown-up kid, and if she has any progeny, he can be a grampa.

My (regular medical) doctor told me that too. She said to make sure and not slack off on the birth control in the late 40s because there’s a late fertility spike, you know, unless I wanted another one at this stage. I took it to heart because FUCK NO.

Mine’s a black guy, and he is the most enthusiatic and attention-paying I’ve ever had. By a wide margin. Sometimes I worry that it’s so all-about-me (I will ALWAYS come, but he often does not - age thing, in his case, being a gentleman of a certain age.) But then I just relax and let it be, because the previous 30…

As I told my daughter at this crucial time, always have protection on you in case, go with the moment (you can’t plan everything! It’s better if it’s just when it feels right)... and maybe get a little high first.

No, totally not a cop out. My fella actually gave me a vibrator, which he uses on me (he does not require me to get myself off with it) - just adds to the available options.

Right though? Like when they arbitrarily slap your bum and go “Do you like that, you like that don’t you” which, who knew that was a thing (I’ve had it happen a few times; what makes them think that’s a thing) but anyway - um...no.

So basically, you’re down with her getting YOU off and having to get HERSELF off as well. Yeah, thanks for the advice, that sounds like fun. How about you put a TINY FUCKING BIT OF EFFORT into getting her off instead?

What seriously?? Doesn’t everyone use the shower head? (You use a handheld, obviously, and direct it as required...)

Well, speaking as one who can orgasm from pretty much anything, she could be telling the truth. Can’t say I don’t like a bit of a lick, but for sure it can get over-stimulated and uncomfortable, whereas I can always get another orgasm from penetration. And a better one. (We are unusual, though.)

Yes, you can. I never made any mom friends. I just have friends. It can be done.

Yeah, which is not wasted, is the point - is not wasted because you are growing food that most of North America eats. Whereas your infinity pool or your private golf green, that water is wasted. 12 million gallons by your reckoning would keep California growing food for the whole of North America for 3 or 4 days - I…

Well that too. Defs some entitlement there.

This is depressing as fuck. I’m in my 50s and, you know, no stunner by any means, but reasonable looking - I don’t think it’s vanity to say that I can pass for 10 years younger - and yeah, when I was on OkCupid I’d get (I know, judging, whatever) seriously hopeless guys my age (or much older and lying) or the odd…

As my (ex) husband of 30 years never commented upon my looks (if I asked, when we were going out or something, he’d invariably say “You look fine”) I am loving that present bf tells me I’m beautiful all the time. I’m not beautiful, but it’s nice to hear him say it. He’s age-appropriate, btw. My ex is on his second…