Neigh.

While trying to make a living lighting for theater, I worked on fashion shows. A producer explained to me that runway models are "heavy" and "old" when compared to photo models. "Heavy" meant the women had boobs and could withstand the hours of prep and practice than the photo models, who never ate, so sometimes…

Thanks for the reply. I think you broke it down well into three behaviors, so I'll follow in the same format.

Think of it this way:

Omigod this made me laugh out loud. "I'm going to live ALL OVER THAT HOUSE, girl! I will COOK in that KITCHEN! Can I test your box spring?" I love this analogy, thank you!

Why do you find it funny that people want attention but not TOO much attention? Honest question. You seem to find it hilariously hypocritical, but it sounds like plain common sense to me.

Men don't catcall to pick women up they catcall to remind us of the commonly held view that we are sexual objects first and people second, if at all. To remind us that we are not for ourselves.

Right. You might be out looking to be noticed and maybe meet a cool guy. In an ideal world, guys would take some notice, exchange some eye contact with you, and then accurately assess the vibe they are getting to determine if they should come up and say hello.

I won't lie and say that wasn't how I always looked at it. Sort of in the same vein as a woman who always complains that this guy is really into her and won't leave her alone, yet anytime he's talking with another girl, she's over there trying to get his attention. (And guys do the exact same thing to girls)

There is no incongruity. I didn't pierce my nose b/c I wanted to have a discussion about pierced noses with every person I meet. I didn't dye my hair b/c I wanted to have a discussion about hair dye with every person I meet. If you think pierced noses and dyed hair are weird and you need to stare and comment, it is…

Put it this way: when I dress to be noticed, that doesn't mean I'm going to be equally receptive of ALL notice, and that is what men never seem to understand. Just because I'm out at night wearing something skimpy and looking to meet a guy does not mean that you are that guy, just because you happen to be *a* guy. So…

As I posted in reply to another comment, the next time someone comes up to me and makes a comment about a girl dressing for attention, I'm going to ask them if they ever considered that they might be just dressing that way from themselves. Maybe it will open a few eyes, we can only hope!

Thanks for the reply. This is a really huge and super important distinction that I believe few guys have ever even thought about or considered.

I'm not sure why I'm bothering to reply, as you've received a surplus of comments already. Anyway...

I don't even think I can properly articulate how much I appreciate this comment. This, just this. And to all the men who have told you that you "just don't have the testosterone to understand all their problems," well, really, all I've learned is that those sorts of fellas will find ANY reason to excuse their…

So, you're 'allowed' to look...but I'm not allowed to give you a 'death glare?' Interesting that you're restricting what I can do with my eyes while claiming absolute freedom for your own.

1) I am ALLOWED to look at you, with or without a death glare, just like you are allowed to look. You can look at whatever you want. But you do not get to dictate how others react to your behavior

"I don't need your ass-high cutoffs drawing my eyes to your jailbait butt and my soul straight to Pervert Hell. "

Plus, wearing high-necked tops makes the boobs *just* as noticeable: it accentuates the "vast tracts of land". A v-neck top seems to balance my cleavage more than a crew neck tee without letting my boobs hang out all over. But because I show more skin than a playing card, I'm subject to slack-jawed drooling stares on…

1. Subjective